How to Be a Good House Guest?

V.C. Higuera
While some people are sincerely hospitable and always opening their homes to distant relatives and friends, it is possible for a house guest to overstay their welcome. Staying as a house guest in someone's home is an honor; and while your host or hostess may encourage you to make yourself at home - there are house rules and boundaries that should be followed. For this matter, house guests who take advantage of their gracious host may not receive a second invitation. Here are a few tips to ensure a happy stay.

1. Wait for an Invitation

Because of a busy life, most people look forward to quite weekend breaks or vacations at home. For this matter, never assume that people want a house guest. Even if the person you are visiting is your best friend in the world or sibling, sometimes, they may prefer a weekend of rest and home relaxation, minus the pressure of being a good host. To avoid becoming the irritating house guest, always ask in advance or wait until you are invited.

2. Avoid Extended Stays

Prior to arriving, hosts and guests should confirm a time frame. Although rational thinking people avoid overstaying their welcome, some people have the tendency to remain at a friend or relatives home for several days or weeks. Of course, situations occur that justify longer stays (divorce, loss of employment, need a change of scenery, etc.) Still, house guests should receive clearance for extended stays.

3. Contribute to Average Household Expenses

The occasional weekend guest is usually not required to contribute financially to household expenses. On the other hand, if staying with a friend or relative for an extended period, offering a monetary contribution for grocery shopping or utilities is a kind gesture. Furthermore, house guests may also contribute by tidying the house or preparing a few meals.

4. Avoid Making a Mess

Some people are neat freaks. When staying as a house guest, assume that your host or hostess falls into this category. With this said, keep your sleep area neat and clean at all times. Moreover, if sharing a bathroom with the hosts, avoid leaving personal items lying around, and clean the wash area before leaving.

5. Never Bring Additional House Guests

Even though your host or hostess is looking forward to your weekend visit, he or she may not be expecting your children, friend, or pet. If bringing along a stowaway, ask for permission in advance. Your host or hostess may prefer to bond without having screaming children running through their house, or your annoying friend chattering uncontrollably.

6. Show Respect for Boundaries

House guests should remember that certain areas of the home are off-limit - unless given verbal permission to access these areas. Thus, avoid entering the refrigerator at leisure, or raiding your friend's medicine cabinet, household drawers, or closet.

Published by V.C. Higuera

Freelance personal finance and health writer from Chesapeake, VA  View profile

  • Before arriving at someone's home, ask in advance.
  • Avoid long extended stays.
  • If staying for several days or weeks, contribute to household expenses.
When visiting someone's home, avoid bring extra guest without permission.

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  • Larry10/16/2008

    I have a house guest now that is over staying her welcome, she doesnt seem to be able to take subtle hints, so I guess Ill just have to just tell her. GO HOME

  • elwatson4/13/2007

    This was really helpful for me. A friend of mine asked to stay at my apartment but didn't ask me how long he could stay for. I wanted to establish boundaries beforehand and told him he could stay for one week. He was offended I wouldn't have him longer and got very upset with me. I was starting to question myself and doubt my reasons for not wanting him longer. Thank you for showing me that others feel the same way about their homes.

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