How to Be a Good Step Father

To become a guardian for your own children is already a difficult thing to do. How much more if you have to be a guardian to someone who is not your own child? How do you become a good guardian or parent to your step daughter or son?

Consider this situation, I was a divorcee with two sons before getting married to my present wife who was a widower with one daughter. I have been married to my present wife for eight years, and we have a daughter who is currently six years old. My biggest challenge is how to be a good parent to my two sons, my step daughter and my present daughter.

Since my wife is also working, our kids are taken care by the maid from 8.00 am to about 6.00 pm. Therefore, we have limited time to spend with the kids. The time that we spent with the kids have to be quality time. From my experience, how we spend time and how we communicate with the children is very important, even though our time is very limited. The followings are the things that we do to ensure that we spend quality time with the children:-

1. Having our dinner together every day without fail

2. We pray together every day without fail

3. Discuss and assist the children in their school work without fail

4. Spend the whole weekend together with the family

5. Family outing once a month without fail

6. Discuss the children's problem & suggestion before every weekend

Based on what we have done above, I find that the relationship between my childrent and my step daughter is very good.