How to Gracefully Return an Engagement Ring

Imagine you have found your prince charming, who surprises you with a romantic proposal. His timing is perfect; he looks so handsome, the mood is just right. You graciously accept his proposal, as he slips the engagement ring on your finger, you gasp. You are overcome with emotion, not because of the occasion, but because of the hideous rock on your ring finger.

Is it possible to break the news gently?

Remember this is the man with whom you are going to spend your life, and be confident that this is an issue you can compromise on. Think about what time of day your fiancé is the most relaxed. Let him know that you are excited to be sharing your life with him. Ask him where he picked out the ring. Find out if it was from a traditional retail store, pawn shop, family heirloom, or purchased online. Listen closely to see if he mentions "we". See if a family member or friend helped him pick out the ring. Let him know that you would like to go to the jeweler and see what your options are for finding something more suited to your tastes.

People.

If a family member or friend helped pick out the ring, speak with that person. Ask them to come along with you, and your fiancé on your trip to the jeweler. Let them know that you value their opinion, and would like their support. However, many times in-laws and well meaning friends can be difficult. If this loved one is controlling, has emotional outbursts, or is overbearing; save yourself from the added pressure of dealing with them in public. Take digital pictures of your final selections and have them vote via email. Be sure to call and thank them for helping you with this important decision.

Retailers.

The first step to finding a ring you can enjoy, is obtaining the original sales receipt. If for any reason you do not have access to the receipt. See if the ring was purchased with a credit card, quickly locate the statement. If there are no paper records of your purchase, the ring may have been registered at the local jeweler who has your name on file for warranty purposes. Most retailers are very flexible when you have the receipt. Many allow refunds, exchanges, or for you to pay the difference in price. If the ring price is considerably more expensive, you may want to consider paying the difference.

http://www.helzberg.com

Helzberg.com has a 60 day return policy for rings purchased online and in their retail stores.

Pawn Shops / Family Rings.

The pawn shop may have a limited 30 day exchange or refund policy. Time is of the essence. High quality jewelry is always at the pawn shop, you may find a great ring, with a larger carat size that would suite your needs. If you have a quality ring, considering contacting an experienced jeweler that can assist you in creating a personalized ring. Design options include changing the band, adding stones, adding an inscription, or completely re-designing the layout of the ring. Consider using a family symbol, crest, or a unique design that is symbolic of the relationship. Including your loved ones may relive tension or hurt feelings. As long as the ring is true gold, silver, or platinum, this is an option.

http://www.jewelercam.com provides this personalized service.

Be bold, and trust that union the ring symbolizes will only be made stronger by working through this problem. Remember friends and family, are only there for input and support, not to make decisions for you. Every time you look at your hand you want to be reminded of your spouse. Y you will recognize that good feeling, when you come across the right ring.