How to Be a Great Boyfriend

A lot of guys don't really have trouble making great first impressions, but they have a hard time keeping the flames of romance up a few weeks into the relationship. Soft hair, a chiseled jawbone and rock hard abs aren't enough to sustain a long lasting relationship. Here are some tips to keep the fire burning.

Treat her well

You really made an impression on her. She really likes you now, but that doesn't give you the right to do whatever you want. Once you are in a relationship with a woman, make sure you actually care for this girl. If you are finding it hard to really put your heart into it, then maybe it's time to let go of her hand. She can only be your girlfriend if she continues to care about you; this won't last very long if you don't do the same.

Curiosity attracted the cat

Men and Women alike love the chase. Guys especially like chasing after girls who play hard to get. You two hit it off pretty well, and then she decides to turn her back on you, fueling your desire to catch her even more. She opens up again and you think you've got her, only to find that she has strayed out of your grasp once again. She enjoys it as well, or why would she be leading you on? There comes a time when that finally comes to a stop and both of you acknowledge your affection for each other, but be sure to not let that from keeping things interesting. The fact of the matter is, you chase after her because you are curious about what she has to offer. It keeps you interested and intrigued. This should happen in a relationship as well. Make sure you don't spill out everything to her; She doesn't want to be someone that you just whine/complain/vent to, nor does she want to be someone who knows everything you are about to say before you even open your mouth. Learn to have a bit of a mysterious edge to your personality to keep her intrigued.

Listen to her talk

Yes, sometimes this can be the most annoying part of the relationship. Right when you step in the door, she opens her mouth and "Hi Honey" turns into a 1 hour conversation about how she hates her job. Women like to include a lot of gratuitous desciptions in their stories, but it pays to be patient. Listen to what she is trying to say, and if she has any frustrations, assuage them accordingly. But you cannot just give in to everything she is saying and agree with her arguments. Once you tell her what you think she did correctly, compliment her and then give your insight on what she did wrong and what you think she should do next time. You enjoy each other's company, but make sure you truly care about each other's personal lives as well. Discussion is vital to improvement and growth as a couple.

Learn to love yourself as well

We hear it all the time. Guys who have just emerged from break ups have it the hardest. "I loved her so much," or "I loved her with all my heart, why did she leave me?" Is it possible that she could have lost interest? A lot of times it's because the man in the relationship did not love himself enough. What is meant by that is this: If you are not a capable, caring, understanding, reasonable, and dependable man, how could a woman stay with you (no matter how much you say you love her)? Actions speak louder than words. She doesn't need a man to just spout nonsense, she needs someone who is actually willing to be productive. A man who loves himself is willing to improve is own standing in life and become more responsible to himself, not only to better and further his own intent, but at the same time support the woman by his side. If you have none of the characteristics listed above, with what exactly are you going to love this woman with? Useless words.

Stop being so controlling

If you really have developed an attraction for this girl, let her roam free on her own. It's not your job to tell her what she can and cannot do; You can only offer your opinion. What she chooses to do is entirely up to her. No use in worrying, because she is her own entity. If one day she decides to leave, whatever you say or do will not affect her final decision as she has already made up her mind. If she has made a mistake in cheating on your or leaving the relationship and wants to come back, that is for you to decide, but that is besides the point. The only reason you want to control her so much is because of your own insecurity that she will go out and not come back. If you two have made a great relationship and a strong bond, she will come back. Control her all you want. But the battle you fight is a futile one.

Hopefully with this new insight you and your partner can grow closer together, and I wish you many years of happiness in the future!