How to Grieve Losses in Life

Have you ever lost a favorite toy as a child? How about a school mate that moved away? Or have you maybe lost a pet, a grandparent, or a neighbor? Hmmm...and what about that cool outfit that had to be given away because you outgrew it? Or have you lost a letter someone special wrote to you? Recall a special place you visited that you have never returned to that just keeps nagging at your memory? And oh my, where did that youngeryou go? The person that you have inside that got bigger, older, stuffed down inside or totally lost? Loss is always going to happen in life, so how does one "deal" with it?

Most importantly, how about those feelings that are attached to the item, person, scene, or age that you have the longing to bring back? The heaviness that you may feel right in your chest when you think about the event, person, or whatever. Have you allowed yourself to really feel the pain of the loss? The anger, anquish, sadness, meloncholy, sorrow, emptiness, hurt, denial, that surreal world of powerlessness over what the grief is about? Feelings just are and they have a power all their own. If the emotions are not felt and allowed to have a voice then the energy of those feelings stay in the physical body causing one more pain by manifesting as illness such as depression, high blood pressure, tumors, or worse.

Consequently, the energy of grief lives within a person.So how does grief manifest itself when it is ignored? It seeps into every pore, every tissue, and organ there is in the body. In addition, think about this ~ the energy of emotions ~ when anger surfaces, what does it feel like? A person may shake, sweat, feel the "blood boil, " have a panic attack, have anxiety, tenseness, etc. So if it is not let out, what happens? It subsides...and just never leaves the body that it lives in.

In contrast, if grief is owned and allowed to be given an outlet, healing can possibly take place. The thoughts are examined, the truth of what is now and what was then is a reality. There are many ways to let it bleed out, such as writing about it, talking to a stranger really works wonders too, as well as talking to familiar trusted faces. Punching pillows, shredding up newspapers, screaming, crying, running, driving, painting, singing, molding, drawing and so on are all ways to let it out. Only you can decide what you wish to do with it, or not.