How to Handle the Death of Your Child's Pet

Dogs live on the average about 13 years, depending on the size and the breed. Cats can live for 20 years if kept indoors. Rabbits average around 10 years and other animals live shorter life spans. Chances are, and you hope, that your child will outlive your pet.

The death of a pet is just not something that people who have never had pets can understand. They will often suggest just "getting another dog" in an effort to make you feel better and may not be able to understand you grief about losing what they feel is "just an animal."

During the time that your pet spends in your life, everyone in the family grows attached to the animal. There is a bond between pet owners and their pets that is broken only upon the death of the pet. It is heartbreaking for most adults to have to put their pets to sleep, or to find them dead. It is even worse for children. For many children, this may be their first experience with death

Never underestimate your child's grief. Allow them to grieve for the animal that they lost and do not suggest replacing the animal right away. Give them some time to heal. Eventually, they may want to get another pet, but assure them that they are not "replacing" their deceased pet, but that this is a compliment to their deceased pet as the dog or cat or rabbit had been such a good companion they may want to have this experience again.

Your children may not be the only ones distraught when the pet dies. Expect to go through a gamut of emotions as well, particularly if you've never experienced the death of a pet yourself. In many cases, you'll have to be the one to put the animal to sleep. It is not advisable to bring young children to witness this. You can simply tell them that he dog or cat went to heaven and is in a better place.

The lesson of death is just one lesson that having pets can teach your children. Most people will say that they get pets for their children teach them responsibility. But pets teach our children so much more than that. They teach compassion and purpose. They also help form regular

routine, whether we like it or not, and give us a reason to get out for a walk, in the case of a dog. They teach us unconditional love and demand very little, just a bit of food, water and shelter. Children who grow up in homes with pets often tend to be more compassionate and well rounded than those who grow up without pets.

Whether you get a goldfish or a dog, make sure your child has a pet. Caring for creatures that are smaller and more helpless than them will teach your children how to be more compassionate and caring people. And we can use more compassionate and caring people in the world.