How Can You Help a Friend in Need?

Somehow or another, I became the friend in the group that everyone comes to and asks "what should I do?" I'm not sure that I always have the right answer, but I do know a thing or two about being a friend and helping someone in need. I guess to me it comes inherintly and so I thought that I would share a couple of ideas that I've implemented through the years.

If your friend has suffered a death in the family, first and foremost let them know you are there for them. This sounds so cliche and silly, but you'd be amazed at how many people freeze up when there's a death in somebody's family and don't know how to help. Call them, send them an email, text them--just do whatever you can to let them know that you are there for whatever they may need. I also like to send flowers which most people do, but above and beyond that try to take food. This is something that my mom taught me and I've learned in my own funeral experiences just how much food is appreciated as it is often times the last thing on your mind. Bake some muffins for the family, pick up a tray of sandwhiches, or make a casserole--this will go a long way and be remembered.

If your friend just had a baby--lay low but let them know you're thinking of them. Having just lived through my first birth of a child, I can tell you that you don't always want another visitor. Sometimes you just want some quiet time, and you will let people know when you're ready for company. Most people think that you want the company, but ask first. A week may make all the difference in the world! It's always nice to bring food in this instance too--I usually make or pick up casseroles, pasta dishes, a friends favorite dishes by request or a simple Rotisserie chicken. You are so overwhelmed with a new baby that dinner is so welcome as is a quick visit with friends when you're ready!

Your friend just got engaged, just got a new house, or got a promotion. These are the miletones that people tend to forget and to me, they're a big deal. Sometimes a simple call does the trick, but if you really want to go above and beyond send a card, flowers (depending on how close you are), or pick up a little gift (think of something that can go in their new house or office, be a part of their wedding planning, or is just them) that shows how much you care.

I'm certainly no Miss Manners, but I can tell you that when it comes to recognizing happy or sad times in peoples lives, a little goes a long way! Letting people know you are there for them and care means the world to a friend and is certain to be remembered!