How Do I Help My Wife Through Menopause?

Being married means taking the ups, downs, pains, sorrows, mood swings and the change of life. My wife entered menopause earlier than most. She was under the age of 35, and I had no idea how menopause would change our life. After a few years, I learned to notice her mood swings, which ironically swelled to a peak once a month similar to PMS, but I still did not fully understand what I could do to help her through the pain of menopause. Eventually I asked how I could help her, and she gladly gave me a honey-do list of ideas.

Don't push sex.

Accepting the fact my wife entered menopause at such a young age meant I needed to fully understand her lack of sexual desire. Instead of insisting on intimate relations, I simply wait until she is ready. Instead of leaning toward an intimate encounter, I add more romance to our relationship. I have learned that being romantic is a viable alternative to sexual encounters.

Don't comment on skin and hair changes.

Laughter is a key component of my marriage. I realized not to make jokes concerning her skin or hair changes. My wife experienced physical changes, including hair and skin texture. Instead of cracking jokes, I researched the all-natural products designed to take away the oily conditions. Although the products do not take away menopause, she feels better about the outcome her skin and hair.

Work with her to keep her weight under control.

Weight gain is a common condition associated with menopause. I found out that my wife did not lose weight as easy as she did prior to menopause. We found a diet plan which suited both of our lifestyles and I took things a bit further. I cook the majority of the meals. This allows me to keep a close eye on the specific ingredients ensuring she receives the proper amount of nutrients. We both keep a daily journal and I praise for her accomplishments. When I see her weight going in the opposite direction, I ask her what I can do to alter the meal preparation.

Remind her to exercise for bone health, not weight loss.

With menopause comes an increased risk osteoporosis. How do I suggest to my wife she must exercise without appearing insensitive? I decided to approach the situation as a husband and wife wanting to change from an unhealthy lifestyle to a healthier one. We decided to perform light weight training, walking and bicycling. All three allowed us to share in our enjoyment of exercise while maintain her bone health.

The tips my wife gave me about how to help her through menopause opened my eyes to the small things I was doing wrong. She did not choose to be in menopause, but it is something she must deal with for the rest of our lives together. Men may not be able to take away the pain, mood swings or health issues associated with menopause, but we can listen to the women in our lives and make a few personal changes to make life a little easier every day.