How to Get Him Back After You've Rejected Him

So you rejected him and now you realize that you want him. You realize that he might not have been that bad of a guy after all and you want another chance with him. But how do you approach him now? What do you say? What do you do? If this sounds a lot like you then you should take a look below at how to win him back after initially rejecting him.

Before you decide that you would like to pursue a relationship with him you need to ask yourself why you rejected him. If you have no solid reason as to why you rejected him then you should go on and try to meet him again. Sometimes we reject others out of fear and this fear could be good or bad for instance; maybe the person gives you the creeps and makes you feel uncomfortable or maybe you just have significant trust issues. If the guy you rejected gives you the creeps and you feel even the slightest bit of doubt about approaching him then you should avoid reconnecting with him.

Now that you are certain you would like to try reconnecting with him you need to find out where the best place is to go and approach him or "bump" into him. If the person that you have rejected is a complete stranger it can make things a bit complicated because you don't know much about them and bumping into them can be difficult. If you do not know the person that you rejected then the best thing to do is to frequent the spot where he approached you. You might have to go out of your way two times a week just to make that chance encounter happen again. If he approached you at a pizza shop, video store, or the mall then go there around that same time that he last approached you. Avoid looking too desperate. Even though you rejected him you still want to play it cool. Don't wander all over the place making it obvious that you are looking for him just pretend that you are there for your own personal business. Make sure to keep your eyes open for him as you hang around. If you do however have his contact information send him an email or text and ask him if he is available to talk. Don't tell him that you would like to date him. Keep the message simple and ask him if he is free to hang out any day. He might act a little weird towards you because he has been rejected but if you show a little interest he might come around.

If your weekly trips to that mall or music store have paid off and you finally spot him. You have to swallow your pride and approach him. Before you approach him look to see who he is with. Is he with a group of guys? Is he with a girl? If everything looks okay approach him with a smile and a gentle touch on the arm. He might be happy and surprised to see you or he might be a bit aloof. Whatever mood he is, you must remember that you rejected him and that rejection hurts. Ask him how he is doing and then ask him if he has a few minutes to talk to you. This is the point where you tie up loose ends and try to win him over, so think twice about what you want to say to him. You could tell him that you have been thinking about your life and that you would like to try dating and that you were unsure whether or not you wanted to date before and that is why you rejected him. Go on to ask him if he is free to date and whether he would be interested in going out with you.

He might be a bit surprised or he might feel empowered and act very aloof towards you because he now has the upper hand and has the choice of rejecting you like you rejected him. Wait for his answer and he if he is still interested give him your number and take his. Let him know when you will call him.

If you already know this guy then it will be easier for you. You should just send him a simple message whether it be a text, voice mail, or through a social networking site like Facebook and ask him if he is free to meet up with you and hang out. He might ask you why and if he does tell him that you would really like to see him. If his ego isn't bruised too badly he will find the time to meet you. Once he agrees to meet you be sure to approach him the same way as mentioned above. Start off warm and open and ask him how he is doing and slowly wean your way into the dating/relationship talk.

The key thing to remember when trying to win the guy back is to not seem too desperate despite how bad you might want him. You must also empathize and show him that you care and are interested in dating him.