How to Improve Communication in Your Relationship

Every person has an irrational side to their personality. Unfortunately, it's common for this side to manifest itself to those we love the most. In this article you will learn how to improve communication in your relationship.

In relationships, it is not uncommon to find fault with our mate. It's easy to find their imperfections. Once we get in this attack mode, we lose sight of what attracted us to them in the first place.

The good news is that these patterns can be changed. Through open and honest communication your relationship can begin the healing process.

Begin by sitting down with your partner, then take turns voicing what upsets you most in the relationship. Listen carefully to what is being said and do not interrupt. Criticism is hard to hear; it is important that you understand what your mate is feeling. Acknowledge what you heard by repeating it back to them, and state what you are willing to do to improve the situation. By reaffirming what we've heard our partner say, we're acknowledging their feelings. By stating what you are willing to do to change, you are showing that you are willing to compromise.

As you work on your communication, speak with "I" statements rather than "you." For example, instead of saying "you're always telling me that I'm fat," say, "I feel frustrated and inadequate when you pick on my weight." This helps the other person understand your feelings and takes you both out of the attack mode.

By opening up the line of communication, you will both learn that you don't have to be right. It's not winning an argument that counts, it's acknowledging the other persons feelings, and compromising on how to solve the situation.

Once you learn to communicate effectively with your partner, the stress in your life will be greatly reduced. You will appreciate each other again, and your relationship with flourish.