How to Increase Your Confidence Level

Your mental life support hangs in the balance of the mind. Everyday hundreds of decisions are made just from random thoughts. You're emotions, and also the outcome of your day is decided by the mind; end of story.

Thoughts are the lifeblood of your sense of reality, and yet some of these thoughts can be very destructive when it comes to your self esteem, and also your confidence. Avoiding these destructive thoughts is the focus of this article.

Negative thoughts which can sometimes dominate the mind are very detrimental to a healthy perception of self. Your mental outlook is mostly based on what the ego feeds into the mind; recalling failures from the past, and worries about the future.

Mental Outlook

This ego's job is to provide a healthy image of self, but some thoughts which are filtered through the ego comes out as negative thought patterns. These negative thought patterns are what the mind and the ego creates the best. But it's also negative thoughts which lower your confidence and your self esteem.

The ego creates thoughts of fear and doubt in the mind; fear of the unknown. The ego and the mind work together as a team feeding off each other until we're left holding an empty emotional bag. Every time we lose the mental game our confidence is lowered again, until at last we feel like an emotional midget hidden deep within ourselves unwilling to venture out again for fear of failure.

Our mind is the most powerful muscle we obtain and it loves to be used. It's also a jealous muscle and desperately needs to be used. Every minute of the day the mind flexes its muscle as it puts us through the wringer as we listen intently at everything which is said a hundred times over.

The mind constantly throws at us thoughts which we have to reason out and file away somewhere for future use. As we hold unto these thoughts they're randomly played back to us whenever a fitting occasion arises. This is when the ego and the mind decide.

Self Esteem

The playback of these thoughts is what kills the confidence. Our mind is a super computer which excels in problem solving. But in order to "problem solve" there must first be a problem in the mind to solve, so a problem is created in the mind with a little help from the ego.

These problem thoughts are what plaques and fill the mind; leaving us in a world of self doubt and worry. Our mind goes over and over each problem until we're left feeling totally inferior. Now your level of confidence is in danger in the mind.

With a feeling of inferiority your confidence is left lying beside our self esteem at the bottom of the proverbial barrel. The conscious mind rationalizes that we're inferior even before we attempt to do the easiest task, which leaves you at the back of the pack in the mental foot race. Now you've lost the race even before it began.

Regaining back your confidence is a mental game. You have to be able to understand which thoughts are of the ego when they enter the mind. Human beings are strong resilient creatures, yet we believe most everything our mind relates back to us. This is a mental game between the ego and the mind, and we're the referee stuck in the middle taking all of the blows from both combatants.

Mental Awareness

Be mentally conscious of your thoughts. When any worries of the past or future enter the mind, send them out the same way they entered. Keep sending out these negative thoughts until it starts to become second nature to you (in your mind). After a while the mind will begin to respond to the stimulus it's given, and it will begin to reverse its thinking process (which you've taught it) as your confidence slowly begins to return.

Replace these negative thoughts when they enter with positive ones. Give the mind something else to think about if it wants to work so hard. When negative thoughts enter your mind, ask yourself what you truly have to fear from these thoughts in reality.

Most fear based emotions are thoughts which we can't change, but we continue to think about them anyway. Learn to practice meditation in order to slow down and stop these useless thought patterns. The ego is a tool which we need for survival, but it's also the one which robs us of our confidence and self esteem which is very essential for your mental well being.