How to Keep Your Anger Under Control

Every one of us get angry with something. Anger is there right from our childhood days. I have seen children throwing their toys in anger. They bang their toys on walls. They do not listen, no matter what, and their parents start worrying as how to control these angry children. It takes their parents lot of patience to control these children. You may find this anger in us at various stages of life. From childhood to a matured person, the anger remains with us. The only change you see is that, the expression of the anger. Most of the cases, the expression of showing anger increases from childhood to a maturity level. The intensity is much higher as the person grow elder. But there are some who do not express the anger as furiously as compared to others. How these person react to the things which makes others very angry. How these persons remain calm in any tense situation. What is the secret behind this is the main concern.

What is anger? Why we get so much angry on certain issues? What makes us to loose our control? What is it that we can't control at that particular moment. A husband and wife confronts on various issues. No one is ready to compromise on the point raised by them. Suddenly you see one of them looses his control and does something nasty. Either he uses very abusing words or she bangs something on the floor. This outburst is sometimes very dangerous. It creates very confusing scene to their children. They get frightened.

In office, your boss tells you something which you disagree with him. He scolds you in front of other staff members for not obeying his orders. You murmer some
unpleasant words. The situation becomes worst. You are chargeshitted. You find yourself in troubled water. A mere sorry word does not work here. You return from office to home. There is lot mess created by your only son. He is fighting with his mother for the pocket money. You enter and scold your son with harsh words without knowing the problem. Your son not only feels sad but also very confused as why did you behave like that. After sometime, you feel guilty about what you said to your son. You apologize to him. Deep in your mind you are thinking why did you get so much angry. Why You could not control yourself.

Like these, many things do happen in our day to day life and we get disturb and show our anger when we loose our temper. Can we not control the situation ? Yes we can. We need to look these incidents differently. We need to cool down ourselves. There are certain methods which would help you to gain control over your anger. It's not easy but once you start practicing positively, the things would surely be under your control. There are many books available in book stores which might help you to control your anger. You can practice meditation and this would build much required power to control your anger. Start counting from 100, 99, 98, 97.......and on till you get control on yourself in the heat of the moment. No matter which method you adopt, You need to control the situation and learn to stay calm without creating any worst scene.

Your tendency of getting angry over everything may prove bad to your health. People suffering from high blood pressure are often advised to stay away from the heated arguments and remain calm. Is this anger related to blood relation? It is found that we inherit some qualities, good or bad, from our parents. But we can surely bring change as we start studying ourselves. Make a note of all such events where you find yourself most uncomfortable and possibility of loosing your temper, avoid these places. Well, you can't really escape from all the places though, you should learn to keep yourself under maximum control.

With your frequent eruption of anger, soon you will be unpopular among your group. At times, people around you would make an attempt to irritate you and make you angry. They will start enjoying the scene or drama you create once you get angry. You are responsible for all this thing. Don't expect others to understand you and your mood. Your own efforts would make yourself comfortable in the group. Try your best to remain calm when you are in the group. Do not enter in to any of arguments or the similar situation. If some one still tries to grab you in, stay calm and listen what others say but do not give your opinion. Follow the policy of speak less and listen more. This way, you would be on a safe grounds at least.

If you have already had a heated arguments with some one in the office and now you are returning home with bad mood, please talk to your partner to leave you alone for some time. Go to your bedroom and relax for some time. Lying down on the floor in the ' Shavasana ' posture would give you much relief. Sleeping on the floor with hands spreading little away from the body and taking deep breaths would relax your body. Take a shower and get fresh. The intensity of your anger by now must be much lower than before. Now you can talk with your partner and other members of the family. I am fine, I am OK is the another mantra which will help you most of the time. Say these words when you are in tense situation.

Listening to peaceful music is a great idea. Either your own choice of music or some instrumental music will help you to cool down. Try Santoor CD ' Call Of The Valley ' and you would realize while listening what I say and why did I suggest this. If you love playing any instrument, try that by playing your favorite tune. Involve yourself in some other activity which you like. Divert yourself from the situation which is spoiling your mood. Learn to live cheerful life. There are many things you can not change. Change yourself and enjoy your life. Slowly but surely you would be able to control your anger. Read, write, sing, play, draw a picture, do whatever you like or prefer to but let not this anger over power you. Keep him under your best control.