How to Keep Your Child from Using Profanity and Curse Words

Melanie L. Marten
When little Johnny comes home from school or a friend's house with a brand new word they learned, the last thing a parent wants to hear is a burst of profanity. However, all children come in contact with these swear or curse words, and most end up using them as a part of their vocabulary. Parents may find themselves in an all-out war against these bad-mannered words and phrases. There are several things you can do to keep your child from using profanity.

Keep Your Child From Using Profanity - Never Use it Yourself

Children do what they see, and they say what they hear. While you cannot prevent your child's friends from using profanity and curse words, you can help keep them from using them at home by never using profanity yourself. While it may be hard not to curse when you stub your toe or get mad when a telemarketer calls twice during dinner, using other ways to express your feelings will help your child learn them as well.

Keep Your Child From Using Profanity - Explain Why You Don't Like It

Telling your child why you do not like the use of profanity is an important part of convincing them not to use it. Children respond better to reasons rather than forbidding or threats. Discuss respectful speech, proper use of words, and manners when explainiing why profantity doesn't work for you. You should also express your understanding of why children, teens, and adults use profanity as well.

Keep Your Child From Using Profanity - Demystify the Words

A large part of keeping your child from using curse and swear words is demystifying them. Children and teens often rebel against what their parents tell them to do. By making profanity a non-issue - that is, not over-reacting to their use - you can diffuse the rebelious nature of using those types of words and phrases. When discussing profanity's use, explain what the words are and what they actually mean to your children.

Keep Your Child From Using Profanity - Improve Their Vocabulary

An excellent way to prevent profane language is to improve your child's vocabulary to a point where they will not have to pepper it with curse words in order to get their thoughts or emotions across. Many uses of profanity include jeering at others and verbal attacks on bullies or friends who enjoy argumentative play. Increase a child's vocabulary can open up a whole new world of more imaginative insults and very thrusts and parries. As they find things to say that are even more effective than curses, your child's use of profanity will dwindle.

Published by Melanie L. Marten

Melanie Marten is self-taught and self-employed. Besides freelance writing, she dabbles in website design and owns dozens of websites and blogs. Work is squeezed in between parenting two boys, homeschoolin...  View profile

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  • Gabriel Gadfly5/1/2009

    Very good article. I think it's also worth teaching your kids when it is and isn't appropriate to use such words. For example, in my family, it was usually understood that I could cuss around my dad, but better not let mom hear it.

  • Anne Baxter4/25/2009

    Wonderful article. I'm sooo glad you didn't bring up that old default of our parents, the bar of soap ...

  • Darlene3/6/2009

    It's important that we tell our children that one can express themselves very well without using profanity, in fact doing so shows far more intelligence. Thank you for the reporting.

  • Sharon Morris2/21/2009

    My aunt and mom taught me some different words I could use instead of profanity. My grandma also did. My mom taught me how to use the F word without saying it. My aunts name is Kay so it went like this: If U C Kay, tell her I said Hi. If stands for F then the U and the C and the Kay stands for K. Of course I started using it this way too much and my mom started to get mad at me, lol. My grandma taught me a way to say sh*t without saying it by saying: Shh It went out the window! I still like that one to this day, lol.

    I am 28 years old and still don't like to curse in front of my parents. For some reason it just seems too weird. I don't have a problem cursing at home and my husband says I have a truckers mouth, lol.

    My sisters friends kids, who I used to babysit never had a problem with cursing in front of me. I guess they never knew what respect meant. Great article, Mel! :)

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