How to Keep Intimacy Alive in Your Long Distance Relationship

All romantic relationships require feelings of intimacy to survive. Without feelings of connectedness and, yes, at least a bit of sexual chemistry romantic relationships will whither and die. When a couple lives together intimacy can be as simple as a morning kiss or a leisurely caress. When lovers live apart maintaining intimacy is not as easy. Here are some suggestions to help you keep your flame burning across the miles.

Real Time Connectedness

Invest in a web-cam and a microphone for each of you. You can use your web-cam and microphone combo to go on virtual dates as chaste or as naughty as you like from watching a movie "together" to engaging in mutual self stimulation with visual and vocal encouragement. You can also just leave the cam on as you go about your regular activities so you can see what the other is doing for a sense of connection.

You can also build a sense of connectivity by sharing things though you are far apart. You can rent the same movie and agree to watch it at the same time then later talk about it via phone, email, or chat. You can both go outside and stargaze while on the phone together. If you live in the same time zone you can watch sunrises and sunsets "together." You can do this by phoning each other and talking, by web-cam, or simply by agreeing to do the same thing at the same time.

Pieces of You

Make a custom sex toy cast from your own body to send to your partner. Ask your lover to think of you when she or he uses it.

Send your partner an item of jewelry or outer garment which would instantly remind him or her of you that he or she can wear to feel connected to you. You can also send or give a piece of worn clothing to carry some of your scent. A pair of your sexiest panties mailed in a double Ziploc bag should put a smile on his face.

Invest in some inexpensive digital voice recorders. Record loving, naughty, or sexy messages on them and ship them to each other for on-demand listening.

Take erotic photos or video of yourself and send them to your lover. For added impact you can send your erotic photos in a frame with a digital recording feature.

Your Future Together

Share your plans to build a future together. The absence of plans to have a future together may erode a loving relationship. Talk about your hopes and dreams for the years to come. Consider "we" and "us" in your plans.

Talk about what you want to do the next time you get together. You can do this on the telephone but it might be more fun to create lists to send to each other.

Define your expectations for while you are apart. In any relationship, communication is key but the clarity of expectations and communications in long distance relationships is absolutely vital.

You Can Send It In A Letter

Invest in some stationary and write love letters to send via snail mail. You can personalize them with a dab of your aftershave or an imprint of your lips in lipstick or a lock of your hair. Write love poems or stories of your erotic fantasies and put them in the mail. Your writing skills don't need to be fabulous, just write from the heart or the groin.

Living Rather Than Waiting

Maintain a "normal" lifestyle. Do not spend your time waiting for your partner to return to your life to experience life. Go out with friends, pursue your hobbies. Be your own separate person. Personally, I think this is something many traditional relationships could use a lot more of.

Waiting to begin or resume your life until your partner joins you is both unhealthy and unrealistic. It can generate unnecessary frustration and resentment.

Best wishes to all of you separated from your loved ones by spatial distances.

Happy Loving!

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