How to Keep the Peace with Impossible People

Have you ever met a person that it seemed no matter what you said it was the wrong thing? It may seem like it's impossible to keep the peace with this type of person. Doing such things as twisting what you may have said, totally not understanding, or it may seem like they are on purpose, not understanding? This can be extremely annoying and frustrating to be constantly fighting with you over something you can't understand, and you may want to give up on them, even if they are family.

Before you give up on that type of person, there needs to be some kind of understanding on your part. There can be many excuses for this type of behavior, but if it's something that's been on going for years, it's clearly a condition such as bipolar disorder or some sort of distraction like kids. Perhaps both! It's really not as hard as you may think it is to keep the peace with impossible people.

My sister who has been previously diagnosed bipolar can't afford her medication so of course from one second to the next, her stories change, as does her moods. This has caused countless, pointless fights, simply because of her mood swings and not understanding. It's been my dealings with her that taught me valuable information I'm passing on to you, and it works! For 29 years it's been one problem after another problem until I discovered this wisdom which I believe came from God. I have also applied this method with others I speak with, and our friendships have become stronger because of it.

When the person that you wish to keep the peace with communicates with you, only focus upon the good things that person is sharing. This may be rather hard because the person you are speaking with may never say anything nice about anyone. If this is the case, try as hard as you can to find the "silver lining" in anything they share. Focus upon that, and joke about it. I found it extremely hard to not respond with comments I had in the past though they may have been jokingly, it only made matters worse, such as smartass comments that though truthful, can be hurtful.

This type of person who twists everything you may say, there is no point in sharing anything you feel may lead to a fight, at least not in the beginning. The reason I say this is because, it will take some time to basically train yourself in dealing with this person. If you share right away something, and you aren't prepared for how that person is going to respond, you will end up at square one in your relationship. Take it slow, and over time it will become second nature. So I guess mother was right, if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all.

After you have applied this method of keeping the peace with those types of people and it becomes second nature, you can then open up with sharing things you may have held back. The reason you should wait is, when this person then takes what you shared and twists it, you are prepared to respond calmly and polite instead of giving up or simply ignoring the person altogether, or worse yet telling them exactly how you think and feel about what they are doing. I'd like to personally believe the person isn't doing it on purpose.

If you speak with that person online in messenger or emails you can still apply this to the chat. It is best though to not ignore everything that is said, respond that you got that message and respond as previously stated find that "silver lining". You don't want to make it obvious that you are basically ignoring half or nearly all of what they have shared. Remember it's all about keeping the peace.

After you have applied this method I am confident you too will find the peace in the friendship you didn't have before.