How to Keep Your Relationship Sexually Satisfying

Sexual satisfaction in relationships rates second to money as the reason why many couples get divorced.

Personally, I think it's the other way around; only people can't bring themselves to be that open on a public record. I know that if I could get all the sex I wanted from a partner, whenever, whatever, however, we could live in a cardboard box.

As long as it kept the rain out, there'd be no reason to DO anything else.

Here's how to keep a relationship sexually satisfying.

1. Who wants it more?

   Men and women in long term relationships and marriages obviously need very different things from sex, but their values should have melded by now so that each is willing to give the other what they want.

   The best sex is when you can find a way to give both partners what they want simultaneously. It's possible.

   Begin by playing the game "Who Wants It More." You get as close as you can, and do whatever you want, without touching, until someone can't stand it any more. The first person that touches has to do what the other says. This gives the tension that women enjoy along with the promise of immediate gratification that men enjoy, with each actually tempting the other to do the exact opposite of their gender nature.

   Women usually get really hot because of all the waiting, and men enjoy the wait and watching their woman actually wanting to jump them for a change.

   What a great game.

2. Guys, surprise her with the place.

   Switch environments.

   I know you've heard this one before, but after you play Who Wants It More, guys, take her in your arms like you used to and whisk her away to what I call a "teenage place." On top of the washing machine. On the car. In the backyard. The bathroom. You get the idea.

   Different place every time.

3. Make other people want you sexually. Your partner will naturally respond.

   Make yourself sexy to outsiders. Nothing is better to a man than when his friends say, "Your girl looks like Britney Spears.

   Back when she was hot."

   And obviously, women, when other women want your man, you get all super jealous and start wanting him more just because they do.

   So work out, dress up, and when you go out, turn heads. Do it for yourself and your partner. Guys, learn the guitar and play a hot song about women. Girls, get a perfect midriff and show it off at the club just so your guy can come up and make the other guys who hit on you look stupid.

4. Allow fantasies, yes, even of other people, into your bedroom to keep a relationship sexually satisfying.

   One of the biggest ways you can keep sexual satisfaction is to renew yourself sexually.

   This includes fantasies.

   We are too linked and bombarded with perfect sexual imagery from the entertainment industry to truly enjoy monogamy. It's not natural for men or women. So instead of getting jealous at your partner's fantasy lays, share yours as well. Because you know you have them.

   Play on it and allow that to bring you closer rather than let that jealousy split you apart.