How to Kiss Using More Than Your Lips

Romantic kissing is a cornerstone of any romantic relationship: from fling to engagement. Sometimes I think we're apt to think of the romantic kiss as an end. Here we might say "a kiss is the goal of a good date." But this sort of thinking won't make you a better kisser, if that is one your goals. You need to re-think this whole kissing thing.

After some reflection on this, I realized that thinking about kissing solely in terms of lip-to-lip contact could be misleading. The reason is because you really don't just kiss with your lips. Or rather, you shouldn't.

So what do I mean? Well, I mean that in order to be a good kisser, in order to receive compliments about it and/or to use kissing as a means to attract a potential significant other, you need to think outside the box. Doing so will give you yet another favorable quality, even if it's a quality you can only count on after you put in some serious time with a potential significant other.

Think about what your hands are doing when you're locking lips with someone (hopefully someone you like). Are your arms stiff and/or immobile? You might think about giving them a more active role. No, this does not mean "feel your date up" or something of that nature. What it might mean is: simultaneously massage your lover's back, or use your hands to momentarily distract your mate so as to increase their surprise when you kiss them hard on the lips (assuming that before you were generally kissing softly, for instance).

How about your wit? A clever one liner delivered right in amidst a break can lighten everyone's mood. I'm a believer in using goofiness or comedy, to an extent, to make our romantic lives just a bit less dramatic. If you are kissing someone because you just made up after a fight, for instance, you might think about saying something cute, friendly, or goofy, even as you are kissing. Romance is already seemingly inherently dramatic; but surrounding the activities of a romantic life in fun or comedy can make those activities themselves more enjoyable.

Remember to move. Move your head from here to there, act distracted and be distracted (if in fact you are so into this person) by the many bodily areas you appreciate. If the tempo is slowing down, it is probably not a function of your lips failing to deliver. It is probably passivity, restricted or non-existent movement. Failing to move is behaving as if the activity were dull: it shouldn't be. Kissing should be looked at as something fun and engaging. Your entire body must act as if that is your perception!

I would tell you more of what I do, but that would be useless, I think. If you want to kiss well, just remember that good kissing involves a lot more than just a puckering of your lips!