How to Know When a Guy is Not Interested in You
1.While it's true that most guys love it when the girl makes the first move, it should follow that the guy, if interested, will make the next move. If he does not, he's not interested!
2.If you call a guy and he doesn't call you back, HE'S NOT INTERESTED! This statement is true even if you have had a previous inclination that he might be interested because he used to call you and speak to you, but if he stops making and returning your calls, just stop pushing it. He's bowing out silently and can't just come out and say "Hey, I'm no longer into you". When a guy decides he isn't in to you, he is unable to tell you face to face for fear of confrontation. Guys hate nagging girls and girls that cry so they avoid you. Girls, gracefully walk away and don't keep banging your head against a brick wall trying to get some kind of answer that might make sense to you. There will not be an answer that will satisfy you or appease your feelings.
3.Rules one and two apply even to online relationships for those of you who use Match.com, MySpace, etc. If a guy let's one week go by without checking in with you (after previously showing interest), then give him one more week to get with you (but don't keep sending him messages). He knows where to find you and will do so if he wants to. If two weeks go by and no obituary appears telling you he died, then he's NOT INTERESTED in continuing the relationship.
4.If a guy is talking to/dating other women besides yourself, he's not into you! He's just playing the numbers game so he'll always have a date! This is a guy who doesn't care who you are, only if you're there at his convenience. Stop being convenient and respect yourself more!
5.If a guy treats you like a booty call and only shows up at night, unannounced and drunk, or calls you at 2:00 a.m. and wants to come over.....guess what chicas? HE'S NOT INTERESTED IN YOU! In this case, there is only one thing he is interested in. Don't sell yourselves cheap sisters.
If women want more out of a relationship than to be convenient, they have to start recognizing when someone is treating them with less care, consideration, and respect than they deserve. State your expectations from the beginning and if the guy in question cannot live up to that, then find another who can and will. Don't make yourself miserably unhappy by trying to figure out why some guy doesn't find you enthralling enough to spend all his time with you. Believe me, I've been there. I have beat myself up wondering why I wasn't pretty enough, smart enough, funny enough or whatever enough to keep some idiot's attention. Trust me when I tell you, you have done nothing wrong and you do not fall short of some imaginary mark. The guy just isn't the one for you and you shouldn't waste time chsing Mr. Wrong when you could be out there meeting Mr. Right!
Published by MICHELE E. GWYNN
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38 Comments
Post a CommentMeya, that's not a whole lot of information you've provided. But here's a good hint...you're still dating him. Until he or you end it, he's interested. Now, if he starts avoiding your calls, wants to hang out less, seems to disappear without explanation, then prepare yourself for a breakup. Otherwise, just enjoy dating.
ive been dateing this guy 4 like 8 months now but i feel like his not into me anymore so how can i tell if his not
Hannah response continued... Most of us forget that there are people on our friends list that don't know us in person so aren't aware when we're kidding around, or just don't know our sense of humor. It can be taken wrong or out of context, making us appear foolish to someone who might otherwise have been interested in us.....just a thought...if he ever asks you out...let me know! Good luck.
Hi Hannah, ...Here's the short and sweet of it...if a guy likes you, you won't be in any doubt about it because he will let you know...by asking you out, dogging you daily (but not in a stalker-ish way), looking you deeply in the eyes when he speaks to you, going out of his way to speak to you, trying to be near you...a lot! This guy might have liked what he saw initially, but has failed to act on it. Maybe his interest wasn't very strong...and that's not a reflection on you. Don't worry about him. If he ever decides to pursue you, you'll know it. And a small piece of advice...never have guys you're interested in dating as friends on your myspace of facebook. It creates a false sense of intimacy that usually fails to pan out in real life, AND...if you ever go back and read some of the things you inadvertently post on your site, you might be just a little embarrassed by the way you are representing yourself. Most of us forget that there are people on our friends list that don't know
There is this guy and he is in one of my classes and he does look at me a lot, even at football games, and I even added him on myspace and he accepted the friend request.We have never spoken to eachother or sent a message on myspace and It's just hard to know if he likes me or not...I have all these wonderful dreams about him and it is just hard to even think about the thought of him liking me...Is there something more I should be doing? OR could he not be interested? Thank you :)
Janea continued... Again, you deserve far better...kick old-boy to the curb! Let me know how it goes. Good luck..and much love to you.
Miss Janea..what a pretty name! Sweetie, I don't know how to tell you this...oh yes I do..I'm brutally honest, after all...that boy is playing you! If a guy truly respects and likes you, he doesn't hide you from his family and friends. This dude has something to hide..like another woman, most likely. Either that, or he doesn't want people to know you're seeing each other. Either way, that's just plain disrespectful to you. Don't you think you deserve better? He doesn't even acknowledge you're in a relationship which just goes to prove you two are not on the same page, in the same place. Drop his shady butt and find a mind willing to shout from the rooftops that you're his woman! As to your very last question about "does that mean he doesn't want me?"...honey...all he wants is what you're willing to give..and he wants it gratis...that means for free..without giving anything in return. Cut off his access to your cookie and see how much he really cares. Again, you deserve far bette
Isabel continued....but for some, that's the only place you get to meet people. Be cool. Don't call, text or chase after this guy. Men don't respond well to these tactics. It's very simple, Isabel. If he wants you, he knows where to find you. If he doesn't come around, move on...and this time..go a bit slower...dates should have and end time..say before midnight..and in separate homes. Make a man work for your company. He's got to put in the time before he can reap the benefits.
Hi ladies. Okay..Isabel first. Wow, talk about entanglements. Friends, somewhat lovers, co-workers. Let's start with the basics. You said you'd only dated women before so the mind of a guy in this situation must be confusing for you. Yea, you kinda made yourself a little too available too soon. However, he IS being respectful at work. Perhaps he is trying to maintain the professionalism and friendship (albeit at more of a distance) because after spending two night cuddling he decided you're not the one for him. Either A., he was hoping you'd put out and didn't, so he blew you off, or B. it just wasn't there for him so now he's back-peddled to a safe distance. Most guys won't tell you they've changed their minds...they just vanish. I say ignore him. Just go about your business, but be courteous and professional at work. Never, ever let a relationship outside of the office affect your work, attitude or performance inside the office. I usually don't recommend dating where you work, but f
Hello my name is janea and I have been dealing with a guy for about 4 months, he is the only guys I see, we do everything that couples do but are not commited. he always comes to my house I have never been to his everytime I bring that up he has an excuse, he made the comment the other day Why do I act like this were not even in a relationship... Do that mean he doesnt want to be with me