How to Know He Loves You Whether He Says so or Not

Tiffany Ranae Widdifield, Yahoo! Contributor Network
Nov 30, 2007 "Share your voice on Yahoo! websites. Start Here."

Men can be weird about those words, "I love you". Some will say it and never show it, and others with show it and never say it. Still others will show it, say it and then stop showing it, and then there is the one who never shows it until he says it. It's all so confusing sometimes, and getting past the sweet talk or the lack of it can be nerve racking. Here are some things that I hope will be helpful.

How many times have you heard the words "I'll call you, from the guy you are involved with, only to sit by the phone wondering if something happened to him, or if the phone company shut off your phone on accident. Have you ever picked up the phone to check for a dial tone, confirmed that it had one and then kicked yourself because you just know that when you picked up the phone to check it worked, that he might have called? If you have then congratulations! You are normal. Was his excuse "I forgot" or "I lost track of time"? Yes... that's right ladies... you are still normal, and I am sorry, but I have some bad news for you: As much as you may want him to be, and as much as he's the perfect man when he's with you, he's not in the same place as you are with the relationship.

A man in love will hurdle any obstacle, climb any mountain, journey any path, and do whatever it takes to spend the most possible moments in the company of the girl he loves. He will go to the ends of the earth to make sure you always feel special and darling, you are always on his mind. He doesn't lose track of time. He's watching the clock and hoping you don't think he's too geeky when he calls you a couple of minutes earlier than he said he would. He never misses a call because he's dreaming up excuses to call you early. He doesn't forget dates. Instead he is worried, that you might not be thinking the time with him is a big deal, and that he might be pushing too hard.

You deserve to know if a man loves you, and while the song says "it's in his kiss" the reality is that it's in everything he does. You are on his mind even when it's supposed to be wrapped around other things. There is not other litmus test. He might speak with the words of a poet or sing songs to you with the voice of an angel when he gets around to spending time with you. He might say and do everything right when he's with you, turn your knees to jelly and leave you feeling intoxicated with his pheromones, but when he leaves or when you go home, if you really want to know, if he loves you so, it's not his kiss darling. It's his attentiveness. Anyone can show attraction when they are close at hand. The man that loves you oozes that attraction to you whether you are there or not. You are the first thing on his mind when he wakes up and the last thing on his mind before you go to sleep. He's worried about suffocating you, not making excuses for why he screwed up again.

Don't get sucked into the trap of playing to a dream or convincing yourself that he's worth it because of how amazing it is when he gets around to spending time with you. Just because he puts on a good show doesn't mean he's in love...no matter how much he might say it. The proof is in the pudding. May you never accept a man who isn't as head over heels in love with you as you are for him, and may you never feel the need to try to convince yourself of the veracity of his claims. Take care of you!

Published by Tiffany Ranae Widdifield

Tiffany Ranae Widdifield is a Web developer and a writer, providing web content to such sites as todaysworkingwomen.com, and others. View profile

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Men in love dont' forget to call
Men in love dont' lose track of time
You deserve a man who loves you

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