How to Know Your Man is Cheating

This has been written to let my fellow females know when their significant other is cheating. This is either for the women that know but don't know how to ask, or they do not know but need to see the truth. If you are being cheated on, I am sorry about it. This was originally written for one of my friends that always asked me certain questions and though I was giving her the right advice she didn't take it. When in all due time, she finds out the hard way which makes it even harder. No one deserves to be cheated on. You are a better person for putting up with the games but you will be an even stronger person for not listening to their lies.

Most women think that they created the problem somehow. They either think, "Oh I yell at him too much", "If I was more sexy he wouldn't do this to me", "If I didn't work all of the time.....". You all know how those explanations sound! Ladies it is not your fault! News flash: All men have temptations and if the right moment comes along, they will take it. It is as simple as that! There aren't many men out there that can turn down temptation, especially if it is right in front of them with no signs of wifey and no one else there to tell on him. Most men don't think about the consequences of their actions until after the actions are complete. That is when the games begin! He will do everything in his power for you not to find out.

The reasons could be a) he loves you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings, b) you will take everything he owns, c) you will make a super huge production of your feelings and he doesn't want to deal with it. These are only a few of the reasons. Ladies, look at it this way; if he truly loves you, he wouldn't cheat! Its as simple as that. Love is beautiful, not trashy. No woman should have to deal with the anguish so please continue to find out how to filter out the lies. Also, if the details start sounding personal, I am sorry for it. I used to be the other woman in too many situations or the best friend of the man, and knew entirely too much. I am not trying to degrade anyone. I want you to know what it is like and what the mistress will be thinking. If you get offended by any of this, I do apologize before hand. I just want you to know how the men do things and what the other woman thinks. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope this helps you in many different ways.

Your man doesn't work and you know he isn't at school at a certain time. You call and call and never get an answer. Sometimes you get an answer and they say he is gone with a friend. Sometimes the friend story is true but usually the other girl is around. With my experiences, I was always there. A couple of times, the girlfriend had been told that he was with me and they got the hint but they didn't want to believe it. Well, shit happens. I am the type of girl that gets along with everyone and people enjoy being around me. I can hang with the girls and I can hang with the guys. I understand people and I am usually the one that everyone wants around. I understand guys better than they understand themselves. If you have a man that has a friend that happens to be a girl that sounds like me, Watch out! That is your number one problem. Sometimes the go-to-girl that they know are easy and they can get it and go. Usually they will go with friends that they see all the time so they can get it whenever they want it.

They don't call you and ask you to do things with them. They may see you once or hell even twice a week, they could even talk to you on the phone once a day. What do you think they are doing when you aren't there and sometimes when you are on the phone. She will be there. Especially when your man calls them every day wanting to know what time she was going to be there and what they were going to do that night. I should know, been in that situation too many times and had to be told to be quiet. I know everything that they will say to make you think they have been home all night and that no one else was there. She will be there with him, listening half-heartedly to what he was saying to you, smiling the whole entire time. See girls like us think it is funny. Seeing a man play you and not spending the time with you that they are spending with us. Getting sex usually on a daily basis. Sometimes twice. Taking us around their friends because their friends don't mind us cool girls and actually tell your man to be with us and not you. Kind of pathetic isn't it?

Someone tells you that he is cheating. Now, Whomever may have told you was 80% out of 100% right! Hard to believe? No, not likely. If they give you a name then yes it is true. In an earlier time, maybe a month, a week, or even a day. That person saw them together. They saw them flirting, they know whether the two have been intimate. The sexual tension that was there before, is gone. Everything seems too obvious to the others. They notice that your man and the other girl are more closer now. The are together all the time. He doesn't go anywhere now not unless he is with her. The only time he won't be with her is when a) your man is at work (she is at work). b) He is with you. c)She has other obligations. Been in this one a time or two. You don't believe it of course because you actually believe his lies! We will get to those signs momentarily. That person that told you actually saw them with their own eyes. Not unless that person said they heard it from someone else.

You confront your man about the whole situation. He says, "NO baby!", "Hell no!", "What the %$@#?", etc. They use them all. The way to really tell is to do it face-to-face. That is the only way. You can always catch a liar, not unless they know the actions of a liar and pull it off really well. I know because I should be a nominated actress for the Best Dramatic Scene for the Oscar Awards. Seriously. I have done study on liars. A little hobby of mine is Psychology and I like to get in the heads of other people. So, back on subject. Liars have actions and usually this consists of movements of the body while talking to you. They don't have all of the actions because they can't do but one action at a time while lying. The movement just kind of helps soothe while betraying you.

1. They can't look you in the eye. They look down. Up. They usually try to focus on your ear. Left or right. Not
everyone will do this. Some will look you dead in the eye and lie but there is always another action.

2. They pull on their ear. Depending on whether they are left or right-handed. They rub on the top, they pull on
ear, or they play with their earring. Sometimes, they are just holding the ear. It just proves that they are
hiding something from you.

3. They fiddle their fingers, twist their wedding band, or hold their hand in a fist. Also, if their fingers are intertwined.
If someone is telling the truth, they are relaxed and don't need all of the movements or the cover-ups.
They will hide their hands, in their pockets, under their legs, under their shirt, and other ways of covering your
hands. A pillow is a good way. I see it all the time.

4. They will light a cigarette and puff on it heavily, a very deep drag. If they don't have any and they ask you for
one very quickly, lights it, and then takes a drag or two before he speaks. He is buying whatever time he can
to think of a lie. This is usually for slow thinkers. Good liars usually think of the lie ahead of time, to have one on
the spot.

5. They act so upset while lying to you, he gets sick. Physically ill, literally vomiting, and crying! They are upset
because they got caught. They can't believe this is happening to them and they feel hurt. You think they are
sick because it is ruining the life you two have made, but it is because he has been CAUGHT! I have seen it every
single time. I used to do it myself growing up because I worried myself too much and I got so upset, I got sick
while telling my lies.

6. Your man didn't used to spend but one day a week with you and now he sees you a little more. He is putting
up a front! He used to never talk to you on the phone. The only time you spoke to him was right before he went
to bed. Now he talks to you at least 3 of the times you have called him. Now, you see him more than once a
week. He is doing it to kiss ass. He knows he has been caught and he is trying to make it look smoothed over,
trying not to make it so OBVIOUS! He didn't do that before he got caught did he!

There are more signs and and ways to know. If you know they have been together before, well you possibly don't. They will tell you more people were around at the same time when in all reality, the other people always leave. If you want to know why I am being so blunt, well my friends, I am getting tired of you not seeing for yourselves. It is so obvious if you just study people. For those of you that has had any of these situations then yes, they definitely are cheating! Don't hate me, because I am right! I just know this because I have been the other woman and I am just telling you what I have seen. I have seen it also in my studies and have known this before I actually experienced it. Ladies, you are too beautiful and intelligent to deal with his stupidity! See past it and move on! Life is worth so much more then some hanky panky drama! Live it to the fullest and find a man that loves you with all of their heart not with their penis!