How to Know When You're Being Lied To

It is human nature to lie. According to the bible, Eve lied to God as if it were nothing. Thousands of years have past us by since the dawn of mankind, and still we've retained some old habits. Lying is a topic that most people don't want to talk about, and the reason for that is that everybody has their own lies, be them large or small, they all have them. Lies are spoken everyday, by the people you see at work, your family, even that nice lady that was at the store. You can't even buy a car without being lied to. Are lies really that bad? To some people, yes, lies are as bad a stealing, but others realize that we all do it, and so they accept it.

If you're suspicious that you might be being lied to, here's a few pointers to help you separate the truthful, from the not so truthful. All liars have their tells. Nobody can fool everybody all of the time, but some, can fool everybody some of the time. To tell a liar from a non-liar you have to first look at what you know about the person. Does this person have a history of lying? Would you call them a habitual liar? If you answered yes, chances are, if you feel that they are lying to you, they probably are. One way to tell for sure, is to look into their eyes when they speak to you.

Generally, when a person speaks, they don't look you directly in the eye. More professional individuals might, but your friends, family, and co-workers, usually divert their eyes to something you're wearing, or your hair, but only directly into your eyes occasionally. When you're suspicious of a lie being told, look directly at the person's eyes, this will get their attention, and they will start to look back into yours. Watch them carefully. If they're eyes stay focused on your's, chances are they're lying.

Why? People will do as much as they think they can get away with to tell a lie. If a person never looks you in the eye normally, why would they continue to stare into your eyes just because you looked into theirs? A liar will look directly into your eyes as a way to prove to you that they're telling the truth, when the truth is, that they are looking into your eyes, in hopes you don't catch them.

Body language is another tell of liars. Do you fidget much? Generally, when a person fidgets, it's because they're uncomfortable. When a liar approaches someone they are about to lie to, they generally will walk toward the person at a slow rate of speed, hands either in their pockets, or reaching out for a handshake.

This may appear to be just a normal thing, but watch them closely when they get over to talk to you. You'll notice either they keep putting their hands in their pockets, or they keep messing with their hands. (Cracking knuckles or looking at fingernails) Now, some people are like this normally, and they fidget out of habit, but people who aren't habitual fidgeters are the ones you should look out for.

When telling the lie, and not just leading up to it, the liar will either move their hands around to emphasize their point, or shove them in their pockets, to avoid looking fidgety. Watch their posture, and how their feet are placed. Crossed legs are usually a tell that some part of their story doesn't add up.

Not all people have such obvious tells, but they can be found out too. There are three main things to remember when you suspect a person is lying to you. First of all, listen to what they're telling you, if anything doesn't add up, or make sense, point it out, don't just let them keep making up a story to tell you. Secondly, watch their eyes and body language.

Fidgety, or rigid people usually have the hardest time at telling lies, but some people try to remain calm to trick you. The last thing to remember, is that people are going to lie, no matter what you do. If you think someone is lying, call them out on it. Confessions don't happen if people aren't accused.