How to Last Longer in Bed

The causes of premature ejaculation are grossly misunderstood. As such, you think that your sexual performance - especially how long you will be able to last before climaxing - is unchangeable and not able to be improved. This is completely untrue.

How can I last longer in bed ? Well Just as you can lift weights to add muscle to your skinny frame, or practice your golf swing to lower your handicap, you can improve your sexual prowess and eradicate premature ejaculation forever.

One of the best ways to MASSIVELY improve your sexual arousal control in bed is by understanding your Point of No Return. Your Point of No Return, or PoNR, is the split-second before you climax and ejaculate. It's that fleeting moment which, once passed, means you've completely lost control of your sexual arousal and that ejaculation is imminent and unavoidable. Most men know when they hit their own personal PoNR simply because they quickly become aware of the fact that they're about to climax - an intense 'glow' of pleasurable sensations is usually what clues them in.

Here's what most guys do:

For the first couple of minutes of love-making, which is usually just the start of the first sexual position, they perform care-free - premature ejaculation feels like a distant problem not worth worrying about. After all, so far so good!

A short while later, because of rapidly heightened pleasure sensations, they'll suddenly become aware of their PoNR. They know that if they don't change something RIGHT NOW - either by stopping the sex or massively slowing it down - they'll ejaculate prematurely. Unbeknownst to them, however, their fate for this sexual encounter has been sealed. Properly controlling their sexual arousal from this point on is going to be an uphill struggle. In short, they're fighting a losing battle.

So, what SHOULD the guy in the example above have done? How could he have used his PoNR to reverse and ultimately control his sexual arousal? And, therefore, extend and improve his performance?

What YOU must do is establish a pleasure scale in your mind that ranges from 1 to 10. 1 on the pleasure represents no arousal - how you feel before sex begins. 10 is the Point of No Return - the moment when nothing you could possibly do would lower your arousal and give you back control over your sexual performance.

Now keeping the pleasure scale in mind follow these points to ensure maximum stability in sexual performance.

1. From when the second sex begins till the moment you're READY to climax, keep the pleasure scale in mind.

2. Every so often, take a mental note of where you are on the pleasure scale. Have you reached the halfway point yet? Are you around a 2 or 3? Keep identifying where you currently are on the pleasure scale - doing so allows you to never do what the guy in the example above did - lose track and therefore lose control.

3. When you feel you've reached around the 6 mark on the pleasure scale, think about where you are in the love-making session. If you're only a couple of minutes in, then proceed to step 4 of this 4 point plan. If you're over halfway through how long you'd LIKE to last, then continue on regardless.
4. Before you reach 7 or 8 on the pleasure scale, CHANGE something to decrease your arousal levels. Whether it's your sexual position, the strength or speed of your strokes or the depth and quality of your breathing, altering your sexual technique at this point of the pleasure scale will give you back your control and thereby allow you to extend your performance and boost your lasting power.