How to Learn to Let Things Be the Way They Are

One main characteristic of our mind is its jumping from one subject to another in a very short period of time. This quality of mind is also described as "mind is like a monkey." Remember when you are alone in your room or you are going down the street and you hear some kind of noise your mind jumps onto that noise. You hear another noise and mind immediately jumps there. You see something and your mind already there trying to define what is in front of you and trying to generate associative chains of thoughts. When we are thinking of something our mind continuously jumps from one thing to another. Our main goal is to learn to make our mind stable and unmoving.

Once I observed a dog. It was interested in something in the grass. It was staying there for a long time sniffing something. Then it run to another place and repeated the process. Our mind in usual state is like that dog.

Do not define or give the new names to anything. We already know what is limiting belief. Our definitions and labels are the restraining cells where we sit. Therefore it is necessary to learn to be open to everything new, to be open to the world.

While observing our mind we notice our limiting beliefs and judgments that accompany those beliefs. Those judgments usually sound like "good-bad" "win-lose". At the same time we can see that every "bad" carries a seed of "good" in it and every "good" carries a seed of bad. At some point we can get tired of mind chatter and ask a question: "Where those judgments are coming from? Who is generating them?"

It would be wonderful if you could find the answers to those questions yourself. But we need to move forward and I give you a hint. However you will need to confirm it with your experience in order to better understand it. The answer to those questions is "I". Our "I" or ego generates those judgments. It is ego divides everything as good and bad, black and white. It is ego generates the concept: "this is me and these are others". In that way ego creates its own small and limited universe.

In other words if something happens to us, our ego based on the previous experience starts judging, evaluating the situation. It looks for a threat in the situation Will it bring gain or loss? Will we enjoy or suffer in the given situation?

If our ego decides that it will bring a gain, "good" things, enjoyment then it gets attached to it and tries to repeat this event over and over again. That's how attachment is formed. If ego's conclusion is negative then we try to escape from the situation. That is also attachment. If the ego's opinion is neutral it attaches itself to that approach. That's the way we attach ourselves to everything that inside and outside of us.

Now we deal not with the reality but with our attachments, with our thoughts about how it should be in order to be good and not bad. It only complicates things because ego becomes more and more sophisticated trying to survive. That's the way we separate ourselves form the outer world.