How to Make Long-Distance Relationships Last

Relationships can be hard. Relationships can be complicated. Relationships can make us ask ourselves why the heck we're putting ourselves through this? Make that a long-distance relationship and it becomes all the more complicated.

The answer might be simpler than it seems.

Most people do not enter into a relationship knowing it will become long-distance. It just happens.

After graduation, high school sweethearts decide to attend different colleges. A summer fling becomes a full-fledged relationship. The deployment of a loved one hundreds of miles away, or even overseas, all set up for the dreaded long-distance relationship.

Does distance make the heart grow fonder or is it out of sight, out of mind?

The survival of a relationship all comes down to whether or not both parties involved want the relationship enough or if they would rather just party with others.

Even the optimists predict long-distance relationships to fail. The skeptics scoff.

If both parties are willing to put in a little extra effort and devotion, nothing is impossible.

Below is a list of tips to make a long-distance relationship work, or at least make it a bit easier:
Communicate Regularly. This is important in any relationship-- super important in long-distance relationships. Whether it is by phone, text, e-mail, webcam, IMs or any other means, communication is key to the success of any relationship. It is important to make the time to talk and catch up on the daily and important things going on in each other's lives;

Have the "what are we?" talk. As dreaded as the talk may be, it will be very helpful in determining the status of your relationship as well as give you insight into your partner's views, wants and needs of the relationship, just to ensure you're both on the same page;

Consider the glass half full. Instead of dwelling on the negatives, look for the positives. There will be fewer petty arguments about pointless disagreements, more 'me' time, possible financial benefits since there will be less coffee/lunches/dates together, more time with family and friends and more time to do the things you should have done already. Also look forward to the anticipation and butterflies of seeing your loved one after a long time apart;

Have trust. This should go both ways. There is no easier way to send a relationship down in flames than to fuel it with jealousy, accusations, drama and insecurities without just cause. It is not to say one should enter a relationship blindly, but be realistic about the situation. Accept that you will both have a social life, so don't push for social isolation or hold the other person up to standards you would not hold yourself to;

Make visits. It is important to make time to be together as much as schedules and budgets will allow;

Let them know you care. Even if it is just an e-card, random text, care package or surprise visit. Be thoughtful and remind the other person just how much you care. Sincerity wins big points. It does not have to be anything over-the-top or expensive, just something from the heart.