How to Make Love "hot"

When couples become entrenched in a passionate new relationship, sex usually flows like wine at a wedding. However, once you and your partner have been together for awhile, the passion may slow down until it seems nearly non-existent. You may be wondering how to turn up the heat on your passion and make love "hot."

The good news is that you can change your making love from not to "hot." All you need is a loving monogamous partner and the desire to feel the excitement and closeness that you experienced at the beginning of the relationship.

Sex does not begin in the bedroom, and it is not confined to the lower body. Changing your making love from not to "hot" starts when you first see your partner in the morning. Give him a big kiss and say "I love you." Before he leaves for work, tell him that you are looking forward to spending quality time together that evening. If you don't usually say things like this, he may be perplexed. He will spend the entire day wondering what exactly you have in mind.

When he arrives home, have dinner waiting. This is an extremely kind gesture and a difficult task since so many women also work outside the home. This is not the stereotype of a woman cooking dinner for her man. This is a gesture of sacrifice and love.

After dinner, propose a romantic bubble bath for two. Light candles, sprinkle rose petals in the water. While you both soak in the hot tub, talk about things that make you happy. Remember events from when you were first dating, your honeymoon, or your last vacation. Don't talk about work, family, money, or anything else that could kill the mood.

When you are both clean, relaxed, and comfortable, lead him into the bedroom and initiate slow gentle love-making. Make love "hot" by touching his entire body with your hands and mouth. Make him feel like you desire him. It's okay to be the one to initiate sex. He will enjoy seeing you in control.

Encourage him to tell you exactly what he needs, and then give it to him. Love-making is not a competition. It's okay to give him what he needs without the pressure of asking him to reciprocate. There will be other nights of hot love-making. You can take turns being the star of the show.