How to Maintain a Good Relationship in Marriage

A good marriage can be one of the greatest joys and fulfillment for a lifetime. People marry for love, companionship, friendship and intimacy. The promise of love and happiness appears so desirable that many people think they can beat the odds. It is a fact that now a days it is difficult to stay happily married and this is the very reason why divorce is the common option for couples who can not get along with their partners. In my married life I learned the hard way on how to be happy in many aspects. it is really true that there is no perfect marriage but there are ways on how to make your married life happy.

Never both angry at the same time. I often heard this advice on seminars and read it in books. I asked myself if it is really possible not to be angry at the same time? When our partner is upset with something and he/she is angry, our moods are affected. It needs patience and understanding to deal with this situation. If you really love your mate, you will be able to keep calm when he/she is angry. Just by keeping quiet and listen is the best way to relieve such emotion.

Never yell with each other unless there is an emergency. Yelling can kills love. Don't give any reason for your partner to yell at you. If one of you has to win the argument, let it be your mate. Learn to accept mistakes and apologize. Lower your pride and it will make a difference. I know how hard it is to do this but it is worth a try. It is an effective way to keep the relationship strong and healthy. I am hurt when somebody yells at me specially my husband. It is no use to yell back it will just make things worse.I just wait for the right time to let him know how I feel about it. At least he knows and he avoids doing it again.

Appreciate your partner. Try to say complimentary things to your partner. We really need appreciation from our mate every single day. Look for positive things
in your partner. Never focus on the negative side. I appreciate my partner in all his accomplishments even if sometimes he felt he is not doing really good. A man appreciates honor and acclaim from others but there is one individual he wants to impress more than his business associates, friends, relatives or neighbors and that is no other than his wife. It applies the same thing with the wife. Wives need appreciation from their husbands too. Her work centers around household chores, caring for the children and her husband. Many times, a few kind words of appreciation from her husband can soothe the irritations of her day.

Acceptance. A great deal of marital discord is when one partner try to change the other.It is very basic to our happiness to feel respected, liked and accepted as we are. We feel uncomfortable when we are under pressure to change our habits, personality and preferences. My marriage was put into test when my partner,
displayed attitudes that are very far from what I expected. But then I realize that he is a person of worth to me no matter who he is. I can not change him. If we learn to accept individual differences and respect our partner's right to be dissimilar from ours, it will keep our relationship in good shape. Accepting another person just as he is, is not easy to do but it can be very rewarding if you could make it.

Communicate with your partner. When we're not yet married, we had so much to talk about. After our marriage, I wonder why we have no time to spend to talk like what we did when we're yet sweethearts? Most frequent question asked by couples. Experts claim that one of the most serious problems in marriage lies in the reluctance of couples to communicate each day. No matter how busy we are there must be time set aside to talk. The best is at bed time where you can be together alone and are free to bring up the subject you want to discuss and share your experiences for the day. Another way of communicating is to
hug and kiss before parting in the morning and make a call on break time to say how things are going. It will really keep both partners to be closed to each other. It is so sweet and nice to have this kind of relationship. It really needs hard work but it is compensating.

Support your partner. in a supportive relationship both partners must willingly give up absolute power to dictate and control. Neither demands that his or her way is the best and insist on unquestioned obedience. Rather, each partner shows readiness to negotiate and adjust differences. Men and women are created to complement each other and that marriage is an interdependent, supportive relationship though husband and wife roles differ. I tried my best to support my partner in whatever things he does. If I have some suggestions I did it in a way that is not offending to him and hurt his ego. Even if he failed, I tried my best not to blame him. It is not that easy to hold our temper when something goes wrong but its worth to keep the relationship going. In a supportive relationship, the husband will grow in masculinity and self-confidence while the wife notice an improvement in her attitudes toward herself as she responds and adapt in a supportive manner. Backing up each other together, will enrich their relationship and make their marriage more fun and meaningful.

Married life is not all bed of roses. It is a combination of roses and thorns. It needs hard work to make it work. We can be happy in our married life if we maintain a positive attitude toward our partner. No high standard set. Acceptance and love cam make a difference.