How a Man Should Handle a Breakup According to Facebook Users

I posted the question "How should a man handle a breakup?" on my Facebook page and asked for advice or tips from guys and gals alike. The responses I got varied from both sexes. Here are a few ways a guy should handle heartache.

Do Nothing
Austin, an Army guy in his early twenties, says "he should just suck it up get over it and move on." Though this may work for some guys, keeping emotions in and not allowing yourself to grieve may not be the best thing for everyone. Unless of course you really engineered the breakup like Jeremy, a married guy in his early thirties, who shares "In the old days I would just be a bad boyfriend for a while so the girl would bring up the idea of breaking up, then she is the one holding the cards and saves face."

Forgive and Forget (The Bad Anyways)
Sean, a single father of two girls, offers this advice "Be open and honest with communication. Forgive them and move on, do not dwell on the bad times just remember the good and look forward to the future. Reflect and meditate on the relationship and learn from the mistakes made in order to grow so the next one is better. Make sure you can be happy alone otherwise you'll never make a mate truly happy or yourself." The old adage that you have to learn how to love yourself first seems to be a mutual key in men or women regaining confidence and peace after a breakup.

Get Busy With Self-Improvement
Janet, a married woman in her mid thirties, warns to "be very discreet in everything you do... always (with) situational awareness. Surround yourself with positive people that will not let you do anything stupid and have shoulder for you to cry on. Don't be afraid to cry....loosing someone you love to breakup is tough. Go work out and visit the library to keep mind and body healthy. Dint do rebound love too soon and hurt others." This sentiment is echoed by one half of a married couple. Beth says ""I would say to walk through it, feel the emotions, try to learn something positive or constructive from the experience to take to your next relationship. Anguish and suffering are all part of living a full,. meaningful life. we are sometimes a bit too fearful of pain." The ironic part is that her husband, Todd, offers this advice "depending on the circumstances, a good strategy is to find a new hobby or pastime to engage the mind as you heal. Don't dwell excessively on your loss." Though she remarked that it was opposite and it seems so, they both talk about ways to heal. A lot men tend to handle a broken heart, or any kind of grief, with actions rather than canalization's. So they are both talking about the same destination, just maybe a little bit different paths.

So to sum up how a man should handle a breakup:
1. Surround yourself with good friends
2.. Look inside yourself and start making positive choices that make you feel better about yourself
3. Never let anyone else tell you that you should be handling it differently, unless of course you are engaging in risky behavior. (Which if you are, see number one again to make sure someone is there to set you straight.)
Your situation, your experience with love and your depth of a broken heart is different from anyone else's situation. As Gus, a swinging bachelor in his early thirties says, "Circumstances make everything situational."

If you choose to remain friends with your Ex-girlfriend, read How to Overcome Jealousy from Your Ex-Girlfriend for tips when you begin dating someone new.

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