How a Man Can Keep His Wife Happy

I have seen books and books on relationships, marriage, happy lives, but they are usually written by either women or men who seem to be out of touch. They usually give advice about communication and sharing your feelings, but I don't know any men that really want to sit and talk about their feelings. So I have never found advice like that helpful. Therefore, I am going to give men some simple ways to make and keep their wife happy. They aren't even that hard, but they will be sure to work.

Don't Be Sexual All the Time - This is a hard one (and if you are thinking "that's what she said" this is definitely for you). Guys get too wrapped up with pursuing sex. Now this doesn't mean that you shouldn't still try, but sometimes when your wife kisses you or touches you....it's just that. I know from past experience that not trying will often times make her want you more. Plus, she'll appreciate the fact that you actually care about her in a way other than just sex. Maybe try every other time you think she might be in the mood or every third time. Studies show that the average couple has sex only once a week, so if you try every third night with 2 nights of just being nice, you'll still be ahead of the curve. So make sure you touch her in loving ways, massage her neck or feet, hold her hand, pull her close while you are walking. These are all easy ways to make her feel special and you stay out of the "do you still love me" arguments.

Do Something Nice when you haven't done something Wrong - We as men have a tendency to only buy flowers for our girlfriends or wives when we've messed up. I came home with a small Coach wallet for my wife one day for no reason and the first thing she asked was "what did you do wrong?" This is ingrained in women. Men only buy stuff on holidays, anniversaries, and if they are in trouble. So break that pattern and see where it gets you. My wife still talks about how nice it was that I brought that home for her. Her sister still believes I must have done something wrong, but I actually didn't for once. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do something when you mess up. But gifts for no reason will definitely get you some extra points.

Have a Date Night - As men, we usually don't think about going out to dinner or making a special night when there is no occasion. But since my wife and I started date night, it has become a night both of us look forward to. I was amazed the first date night how seriously my wife took it. I came home from work and she was ready to go. She was all done up and looking really good. I had forgot how good she looks all done up. Don't get me wrong, I think my wife is always beautiful, but it definitely was worth a double take. So really it becomes a win-win for you. Especially, when you see she has put on that underwear you haven't seen since you first starting dating.

Don't talk Only Sports - This one is easy to forget. It's easy to get caught up in work or sports. Many of Sunday's have gone by where all I have discussed is how my fantasy receivers were doing and why the stupid Chargers can't stop anyone. And by the end of the night, I see my wife has slowly pulled away from me and doesn't really want to hang out with me anymore. The easiest thing to do is cut out the talk that you know she doesn't want to hear. I know she doesn't care how many points L.T. scored so far or why I need Tony Romo to throw another touchdown, so I don't talk about it anymore. I also limit phone calls from family members regarding sports (texting is less intrusive but can get annoying as well). Just imagine if all she talked about were the sales at Macy's and how much money she saved at the grocery store. How long would it be til we tuned her out or told her enough. So just think about that when the game is on. Learn the art of discussing topics she likes while watching the game like her work drama or what she wants to do after the game. She might actually sit and watch the game with you if you do this. Also, make sure the rest of the week doesn't revolve around sports either.

At the end of the day, just put the shoe on the other foot. Think about what she does that you really like and try to do some of those things. Women know what their men like and they will do them, if they feel it's fair. In fact, most women will give even more than their men do, but we have to at least make an attempt. Most men stop trying and this creates the relationship drama. So just do a few of these things and you'll be fine. In fact, you might even find your wife actually starts to do even more for you. Which is a nice plus. Don't take relationships for granted because it's like a job in a way. If you stopped showing up to work or just sat and watched TV at work all day, you'd probably get fired. Do that at home and your wife might fire you too. The good news is that the home relationship can actually be a lot of fun instead of work, sometimes you just have to put a little work in.