How to Master the Flirting Game

Flirting is an art; you have to know how to connect with people. Many people say they are too shy or quiet to approach people; however, you don't have to approach someone in order to flirt with them. Flirting also means getting people to approach you. The goal of flirting is to let the other person stand in awe of you.

CONFIDENCE

Confidence is perhaps the most important part of flirting. When you feel good about yourself it shines through you and makes you more approachable. Feel good about yourself by making yourself look good. This could be as simple as a new outfit or a little makeup. Confidence can also lay in working out or eating healthy because you feel like you are doing something good for your body.

Tyra Banks always says, "Always act like you're the prettiest girl in the room, even if you don't feel like it at the moment. And when you're going out, make sure all your friends in the group look and feel hot too! You'll be Team Hotness--and as you walk in, all eyes will be on you." Confidence is sexy; you could be the prettiest girl in the room but if you walk into a room with your head down and make your way to the corner, no one will notice and even if they do you won't seem approachable.

Confidence means that that you believe you'll receive a good response before you even approach someone. Confidence means that you can make the person you approach feel like the luckiest person in the world.

EYE CONTACT

When you make eye contact with someone that you are interested in; you have to look at them like they are the only person in the room. Eye contact shows your confidence and shows that you are interested. If you have ever experienced someone looking at you it can seem intimidating, but you can't help but feel flattered.

Now, eye contact doesn't mean staring someone down or "checking out" someone. Eye contact means you speak or smile with your eyes. When you make eye contact across a room, you seem mysterious as well as approachable. The key to eye contact is to look at someone and hold their attention for a few seconds then slowly look away. As slowly as you looked away; you slowly want to bring your attention back to that person. If the person is still looking at you, they are definitely interested.

BODY LANGUAGE

Body language includes eye contact, but also more than that. When you are talking with someone you want to make sure every part of your body is facing them. Turning away from someone shows you are not interested and uncomfortable. Crossing your arms and any other gesture or pose that closes yourself off from another person makes you seem not approachable.

Slightly touching the other person's arm when you are laughing together shows your interest. Another slight move would be to gently grab their arm if you are following them to another part of the room. This shows that you aren't ready to part ways and that you are interested in what they have to show you across the room.

FASCINATION

Listen to their stories, smile, and laugh at their jokes. If you are fascinated in what fascinates them they will be fascinated in you. Being a good listener and giving your full attention to them is far more important than trying to make yourself seem interesting. If you can make someone feel interesting and fascinating they will automatically respect and admire you for just that.

APPRECIATION

You want to make the other person feel good about them self. This can be as simple as complimenting them on their attractiveness, intelligence, or success. However, the key to appreciating someone is finding something about them that is unique and complimenting them on that. It is important to appreciate something about them that no one else does.

For example, people always compliment me on my teeth or hair color. However, I once had someone tell me that they liked how my hair fell around my face. I was awestruck that someone had taken the time to notice something about me that most others hadn't. It is the one compliment that constantly sticks out in my mind above the teeth and hair color compliments.

HUMOR

Everyone loves someone that can make them laugh. Humor is a great icebreaker; it takes away any awkwardness and pressure in a situation. When you use humor make sure you are witty and clever. Don't use cheesy pick-up lines or dirty jokes for this can make the other person feel uncomfortable and repulsed by you.

Another important reminder is that everything you say doesn't have to be funny; a few original, quick lines here and there will go much farther than constant humor.