How to Meet Women: For the Normal Guy

Being at home playing video games with your dog on a Saturday night sucks. Watching re-runs of the Office (a great show by the way), and eating popcorn by yourself on Friday sucks. But for those of us who aren't confident enough to try to woo a woman into saving us from another boring weekend, this is the typically how it goes. However, after reading this, hopefully your Saturday nights will be spent making memories instead of bagel bites. Here are a few tips for the guy struggling to meet women.

Workout

Working out really is the miracle cure for many problems that plaque our society, shyness and womenless-ness being one of them. If you are having trouble meeting women, begin by lifting free weights three times a week. I recommend reading the 5x5 program at stronglifts.com. When you lift weights, your testosterone raises and you become more relaxed, as well as more aggressive. Basically, you go from a chimp to a cheetah, a lizard to a lion. After about a week of lifting, you'll feel better, more energetic. There'll be a slight bounce to yourself and you'll feel proud and confident. It's easier to meet women when you feel like you're improving yourself.

Dress Better

Sorry, but if you plan on meeting your own personal Meagan Fox, gym shorts and flip flops are NOT going to cut it. Focusing on your appearance makes you seem as if you care about yourself, which is appealing to women. Go to the mall with either a few well-dressed guy friends or a few girl friends (friends that are girls, duh). Either group will be able to show you what works on you and what doesn't. If you are unlucky enough to lack either group, try reading fashion blogs online or magazines like GQ and Esquire. Also, watch a little more "E", so that you can take style ideas from celebrities. Eventually you'll find a look that's good for you.

Read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People

This book has a lot of valuable information on dealing with people. Don't try to apply all of the concepts in this book at once, however. It'll make you think to much when you start approaching women, and you should focus more on having fun in those situations, rather than what to say. Which brings us to our next point...

Start Having More Fun and Being More Adventurous

Put down your Xbox controller and go out in search of a great time. Women are attracted to men who know how to have fun no matter where they are. When you are thinking about what to do over the weekend, pick what you are going to do based on what kind of memories you will gain from going there. By this, I mean when asked about your weekend on Monday, will your reply sound fun, or will it sound boring, nerdish even? Do something that you wouldn't normally do, and if you're afraid, bring a friend.

Go Where the Women Are

There's nothing more stupid than a guy complaining about not having women in his life when the only places he frequents are Sports Authority and LaserQuest. You're going to have to start going to the mall, the library, bookstores, etc if you plan on meeting women. This isn't a bad thing though, for if it's exotic enough, it'll comply with the previous suggestion; you'll be killing two birds with one stone.

Approach With Genuine Curiosity, Not Neediness

Don't go up to a girl with a look on your face that says "I need a woman in my life right now!" Instead, approach her as if you are really curious about what her life is like and how she really is. Basically, be interested in her (this is one of the principles in Dale Carnegie's Book). This way, if she's a jerk to you, it's her not you.

That's all there is to it. However, reading about meeting women won't help you meet women. Now you'll actually have to try to apply these concepts. But in doing so, you'll make your week-ends suck a little bit less. Good luck!