How Men Handle Breaking Up in Every Situation

It is no secret that men and women are different when it comes to dealing with breakups. Many women feel that discovering how guys deal with the end of a relationship is kind of like the Holy Grail. Knowing what men do and how they move on after a breakup seems to be a balm of sorts for some women. The bottom line is that it depends upon the situation and the make up of the man. While this seems obvious, it is simply the truth. Here are the four situations that make up most break up scenarios, along with the likely response from most men. I am basing this upon my own personal experience, and the answers of five of my closest buddies.

When the Man Breaks Up and Does Not Care

This is one of the least likely of the four, regardless of what you might have heard. Sure, there are guys out there that simply move from woman to woman without a care, but it is not the norm. Most guys do care when they break up with a woman, and they certainly do not want to hurt anyone. In spite of this, there are men out there that simply do not care all that much. These guys will move on to the next woman as their way of dealing with a break up. They usually give little to no thought to the woman they are leaving behind, and instead focus their attentions on chasing the next lady.

When the Man Breaks Up and Does Care

This is one of the most common situations, and it is also among the toughest for men. Some men move on to other women to fight this off, but the majority of guys I know simply hang out with their buddies. I know that golfing was always a big help to me after a breakup, as long as I had some of my friends there to help. Also, I would spend some time talking with my Mom about the situation. She always seemed to be in touch with the best ways to get over a breakup, and she helped me to do it in respectful ways. Nothing is tougher than breaking up with a girl that you care about.

When the Woman Breaks Up and The Guy Does Not Care

Sometimes men will push a woman's buttons to get them to breakup with them. As cowardly as this is, it is not uncommon among some of the men I talked with. They hate to do the deed, so they force the hand of the girl they are dating instead. For those that are trying to do this, they simply move on after a woman breaks up with them as though nothing happened.

When the Woman Breaks Up and The Guy Cares

This is the toughest of all breakup scenarios for men, and they suffer in much the same ways as women. They will not admit it as a rule, but they have been known to break out the tubs of ice cream as well. Do not think that men do not sit down and watch a chick flick either. I recall a breakup in the eighties that involved copious amounts of Rocky Road and a couple dozen viewings of the teen angst film, "Say Anything." I also might have spent a few hours listening to Chicago and drowning my sorrows.

Guys get over breakups in much the same way as women, though they are not as likely to say so. Sure, we go to strip clubs and drink beer on occasion to put on the brave face with our brethren, but we hurt just like women do.

Just ask John Cusack. (Now that is a guy that knows how to handle a breakup)