How Mommies Balance Kids, Husbands, and Alone Time

Being a balanced mom is not easy. Anyone can be a mother. All you have to do is give birth. Being a balanced mother, however, is a skill that is developed over time. If your children aren't demanding attention, your husband needs your company. It seems almost impossible to get a little alone time. Here are a few tips for moms to balance the kids, husbands, and alone time.

Kids
As soon as you become a mother, it becomes apparently obvious to you that one of your main goals in life is to make sure your child is happy. Being happy means spending quality time with mommy. For me, spending time with my children is easy. I am a stay at home mom, so I get a lot of alone time with them each and every day. However, my mother worked outside of the home. Although she did not stay home with me, I got plenty of quality time with her. She made sure we ate supper together each and every night. Also, on the weekends we usually reserved one night where we would rent a movie together, go out to eat, or play a game. Although most parents see their children every day, it does not mean they connect with them every day. Make sure you connect with your child at every chance possible.

Husband
Husbands are like big kids. If they don't get enough attention, they begin to misbehave. I know my husband is feeling neglected when he starts getting irritable about every little thing I say. I try to never let this happen by spending quality time with him every night of the week. This means my children have 8:00 PM bedtimes. After 8:00, my husband and I get quality time to discuss anything we want to discuss. We can also use this time for movies and recreation. I find it is extremely necessary for a happy marriage with children.

Alone Time
Alone time is the one area most moms neglect to address. Kids and husbands tend to take up a lot of energy. This means there is very little left for us. To prevent this from happening, make your alone time in the morning before you have a chance to be too tired. Set your alarm for 30 minutes before anyone else awakes. Take this time to quietly exercise, read a book, sip coffee while doing a crossword puzzle, or any other activity you enjoy. If you need more alone time, try using the shower as a get away. Take extra long showers and let the hot water run over your body as you rehash the previous or coming day. Sometimes the shower is the most enjoyable part of my day.

No mother is perfect. However, if you learn how to successfully balance kids, husbands, and alone time, you will be much closer to perfect than you might think.