How to Have an Opinion in a Relationship

How important is this argument, is something you should ask yourself the next time you and your mate are arguing. So many times a little disagreement turns into this big over-grown blowout. I find that most of the time it comes right down to a difference of opinion and each party are trying to convince the other that their's is the right opinion. In the act of defending the fact that your opinion is right, something is said that sounds offensive. Something like, "What you're saying is just stupid", or "That doesn't make any sense at all" and from there you're off to the races.

Before you get into the "my opinion is right yours is wrong" cycle, stop to think how important is this issue anyway, is the wrong opinion going to cause any of you any harm? Will the world come to an end if the wrong opinion is accepted? If this keeps going along this same track it will hurt your relationship. Ask yourself this question. What harm is it going to do if you just stop and say, "You have your opinion and I have mine, lets just drop it" and then talk about something different?

Measure the harm fighting for opinion is going to have on the relationship verses the physical, emotional or financial harm the wrong opinion is going to have on one or both parties. If the physical, emotional or financial harm out weighs the harm on the relationship and you truly feel your opinion is right then by all means fight for that opinion. But, try to let you partner know that the only reason you are pushing your opinion is because of the harm that can be caused. However, if not harming the relationship carries the most weight and those other things are not affected or affected very little just let it go.

Some things are better left not discussed because by their very nature is cause for arguments. Things like politics, religion and even sports are known to cause disagreements and sometimes even fights. So unless you know you are in agreement on those things it's best to stay clear of them.

Lots of relationships are broken because some nasty things were said in a matter of "My opinion is right" situation about an issue that really didn't matter in the first place. Make your relationship matter more than your opinion over some stupid little issue that doesn't matter.