How Our Parents Influence and Balance Our Lives

This question can be heard many times. I always think the question itself is wrong. It should be "Do you love your Mom AND Dad?" The AND always adds something to ones life while the OR always subtracts something from ones life. Whether it is Mom or Dad they both have equal importance in our life, we cannot subtract anyone.

A seed needs warmth as well as the minerals to grow. Lack of any one thing will surely affect the growth of the plant. It might even grow but will it be strong and tall? Probably not. Same is the case in our life. We need the warmth and minerals from our Mom and Dad, lack of anything and anyone does affect us. In a similar manner, just warmth or just minerals will not make the plant grow.

Many times a tight slap requires a cozy lap of Mom and the spanking on the butt requires a positive support from the Dad. As the stern rules require a slip from the Mom, a nagging "No" for climbing a tree in the back yard does need push Dad. The Mom, who gives the child that warm and soothing love, always, needs the dryness and stern support of Dad for the balance. The kiss of Mom sometimes needs a concerned firmness of the Dad to get the child on track. Sometimes a problem needs a more practical approach of a so called ruthless mind. The parents keep on reversing roles as the case maybe to give just that balance to keep us from falling from the narrow beam of life.

I still remember the day when my Dad gave me the last bill from his wallet to see a smile on my face and also that day when my Mom could not control her tears when I suffered a small gash above my eye. At that time I did not understand the reason of the expression in their faces but now it brings tears to my eyes always when I think about those moments. Their sacrifices are incomparable.

They say that balance is important in anything you do. You need it when you walk and also when you talk. This same balance is given to our life by our Mom and Dad, both. The lack of any one affects us.

This time of the year, the holiday season, when we are shopping and enjoying, there are those eyes longing for us, those ears to hear our voice and those hearts aching for us and just saying, "Come and complete us".

The question is do we "complete" them, or are we miserably "incomplete" without them? Let us complete ourselves.