How to Get Over Being Dumped

Ouch! You've been dumped. What happened? You thought everything was going great. But your one and only just broke up with you. How will you ever mend your broken heart?

I have devised steps to follow to help you get over being dumped:

1. Talk to your close friends. Believe me, this should be the very first thing you do. And it is important that they be close friends. Friends that know you best will be able to relate to you and give you sound advice. You need a listening ear right now. And they will make you feel better by truthfully saying you are better off without your ex.

2. Accept what happened and why. It takes two people to be in a relationship. If one person wants out, it is not a relationship any longer. Staying in an unhealthy relationship is not what you want. You are so much better than that.

3. Be emotional. You have to let your pain out....cry, scream, yell. It is okay to be hurt and feel alone. Just know that situations will happen in life and these situations will just make you a stronger person.

4. No contact. This mean no phone calls, no emails, no IMing and most importantly....NO SEX. You must keep your distance from your ex or it can turn into a "friends with benefits" relationship. Your ex will not have any emotional baggage because they are over you, but you may feel that you can get back together with him/her if you're constantly in contact with them. So, make new friends, hang out with old ones, or get yourself a hobby. Just keep busy.

5. It is okay to hate. This hate is so deep towards your ex that you think about all the bad things you want to do to him/her or want to happen to him/her. Having these feeling do not make you insane, so hate away. Think of creative ways to make your ex's life a living hell (just daydream about it).

6. Write your feelings down. This can be very helpful in making sense of what just happened to you. By writing in a journal, you will be able to go back and read where your frame of mind was at, and make better decisions in the future. You will be able to see patterns in your behavior and learn new things about yourself. This is exciting because you are learning that you are such a great, incredible, strong person.

7. Get rid of your ex's stuff. Okay, this is going to be somewhat hard. But why keep love letters, love poems, love notes, etc., if they are just going to make you sad? Toss it. However, if you cannot bear to get rid of certain items, put them in a box and seal it tight. Jewelry on the other hand, pawn it. Then spend your cash anyway you like.

8. After completing the above steps, take a deep breath and let go. You are well on your way. You look happier, healthier and ready to show the world you are a magnificent catch!