How to Get Over a Breakup

Almost everyone in the known universe has experienced one form of a breakup or another and it's never pleasant. If you're the one actually being dumped, it can be absolutely devastating. First of all, majority of the time it comes as a surprise and when that's the case, it's devastating. You mope around constantly wondering what's wrong with you. Why doesn't he/she want you? Are you too fat, are you uglier than you initially thought? So many possibilities run through your head and you can't seem to resolve it. No matter what you do you can't seem to drag yourself out of that dreaded pity-pit. What you don't realize is that if you care for the person, there really isn't a way to avoid at least some level of the pity-pit.

First of all, I suggest that you let yourself fall into a sulk. If you fight it, it will just come later and it will be harder than if you had just gone with it in the first place. By letting yourself sulk, you are getting it out of your system all at once instead of little by little over a long period of time. If you avoid the pit, you could be setting yourself up for bitterness, possible even ruining perfectly good future relationships that would have had a chance had you given yourself that sulk in the very beginning. ( Time limit on sulk suggested - you don't want to cry over it for too long).

Go with it.When you feel angry, let yourself feel angry. When you feel like crying, let yourself cry ( suggested in a private place so that you can face your co-workers later :-} )

My point is that when you try to force your feeling back into place, you're just letting everything build up over time and like everything that builds pressure, in time, it will explode. Maybe even in your face.

Find an outlet. Even though I suggest going with it, I think that you should find an outlet of some sort to essentially absorb what you are letting out. If you find that you are angry, take yourself to the gym and pound the life out of a punching bag. It may even help to pin a picture of the person who caused your anger to the punching bag or maybe you could just imagine the punching bag as that person! ( It's helped me). This way you burn off what ever you may have eaten earlier to fill any emptiness. If it's sadness you are feeling, put on a sad song. I suggest a sad song because it helps. Happy songs kind of force a superficial happiness on you and it doesn't last.

Put that chocolate bar down! The first thing I do when I'm upset is go for that Hershey's bar with almonds and it makes me feel better, BUT IT'S TEMPOARY! I find that when I'm really frustrated, feeling overwhelmed by whatever I'm feeling, and I exercise instead of eating through a tub of ice cream, I feel so much better and I don't have a stomachache or extra pounds to fight through later. Trust me when I say that a little sweat can make you feel really good and if it doesn't, at least you're too tired to acknowledge those tears burning the backs of your eyes.

Get your sexy back girl!! ;-) When you got dumped, it may have made you feel unwanted, unappreciated, and ugly. Hey, that's one person's opinion and you need to remember that. You need to remember that you are still the woman you were before you met that good for nothing excuse for a man. So start remembering it! Get out those high heels that you foolishly put away because he didn't like them, slap on the luscious pink perfume, that killer black dress that shows off all your curves and look yourself over in the mirror because you lookin' gooooooooooood! And don't do it to get another man, do it because you can.

And last but not least, be yourself. Don't change the way you walk just because that's the pitiful reason he gave for breaking up with you. The way that you walk, dress, talk, stand, sit, eat, drink, and sleep make you who you are and a relationship gone wrong is no reason to change any of that.