How to Get Over a Romantic Rejection

When we are rejected by a romantic encounter it stings, it hurts and it burns our hearts. Some of the reasons that it feels as though it hurts worse than other rejections is because it does, we do tend to put more on the line in a romantic setting than in a business or casual encounter. It is as though we are showing our inner thoughts and inner selves and they don't always get out much, that makes us more prone to being embarrassed and it leaves us feeling very vulnerable. The more inexperience we have the harder it is to get over when someone rejects your advances.

The people who get over these rejections quicker and easier are the ones, who have had more experience with rejecting others and have even been rejected quite of few themselves. The same holds true of any kind of rejection, if you have only been on a few job interviews in your life; you will be much more devastated if you do not hear back from or you are truly not the candidate this company has chosen. For whatever reason these people did not choose you; it still feels like you were somehow flawed, even though that may not be the case. Of course the only way to get more life experience in any area is to put your self into a vulnerable experience by getting out there doing it again and each time you do; you will gain insight and self knowledge, so you can adjust what need be to accomplish your dreams and desires.

No matter what someone told you the reason was that they rejected you; or even if you didn't ever get a chance to find out; it doesn't matter. Sometimes people are just trying to be polite by reciting an overused excuse. There is no way that you can honestly know what that person is going through in their lives; thinking in their heads; feeling with their emotions, etc. so ruminating about why they said no is a lost cause, a waste of energy and resources. Even if you have known this person your whole life; you can never truly "be inside" another person's soul. This can help you feel better because there is no way you could have been more prepared, etc. don't keep blaming them or you. There is no way that you should go back and say something different, you did things just the way you were suppose to at the time of the encounter, and that is ok. You live, you learn.

Now, if you see something in yourself that you want to change the next time around, that is a different story. One of the best ways to start to experience anything in life is to start small and build from there. So if you don't even have enough confidence to hold a conversation with someone special, start there and build on that, work your way up to another level. Then, see what works for you and only you, because other people's "game" may not be right for your encounter. If you read something that appeals to you, try it out for yourself first, slowly, get a feel if you are the type of person say that maybe humor works for or storytelling, try different things that make you enjoy the ride first. Because the more you enjoy what you are doing the more fun you yourself have and the less tension it creates, then if someone does reject you (for any reason) you can keep going and maybe the next encounter will be the success you have been waiting for.