How to Politely Turn Down the Romantic Advances of a Friend

With Valentine's Day coming and love in the air, that friend of yours that has been secretly crushing on you might just build up enough courage to ask you out on a date. Although it might surprise you, try to control your true feelings from showing on your face if they are less than nice. The thought of you and your friend may have never even crossed your mind so coming up with a nice turn down line may take a moment to think about. That is why it is important to know how to do this, so that you avoid the awkward silence.

First imagine how it would feel to be in their situation. It took them a lot of guts to ask you out so saying no is going to be a big blow to their ego. Before you say anything, think about how it would feel if someone you liked said that to you. Make sure that you know just what to say before anything comes out of your mouth. You don't want to end up hurting your friend more than you have to and ruin the friendship that you have.

Act flattered that they like you. Let your friend know that the idea of you and them together is not completely disgusting thought to you. Tell them that you do not see them in that way, or what ever else the reason is that you can't date them. Maybe your heart belongs to someone else, or you are worried about starting school or a new job and don't have time for love. Compliment him in your let down if possible to give a little bit of boost to his ego that is about to be shattered.

Whatever the reason is that you want to say no, make sure that you are completely honest. Don't make excuses just to spare their feelings. Stringing them along or giving them some kind of hope will only hurt them more in the long run. Telling them the truth and letting them move on is better for them and for your friendship. Avoid cheesy cliches and let them know what is really on your mind, but remember to think about how it would feel if you were in their shoes.

Convince your friend that your friendship will still stay the same after this so that they won't avoid you from now on. They are going to be really embarrassed and probably try to stay away from you, but acting like things between you two will not change will increase your chances of continuing the friendship like normal. If it is possible, keep your friend from leaving as soon as you turn them down. Change the subject if you can and show them that you can still be friends.