How to Get Pregnant for Couples

Too easy for some, impossible for others, yearned for by many... Having a child is the greatest blessing God gives many of us. Unfortunately, for some, conceiving is a hard road full a hope and disappointment. Having been an active participant in the conception of five children, four of which after fertility problems, here are some of my thoughts.

Step 1

Get your relationship right. I firmly believe that a deeply loving, trusting relationship is the most important ingredient for conception. It ranks right up there with he and she DNA. With closeness comes acceptance, with acceptance comes intimacy, with intimacy comes creation

If you struggle here, you need to work on it together. For Christians, I would suggest Joe Beam's wonderful program Dynamic Marriage.

Step 2

Daily nookie outside of menstruation. I know some doctors suggest skipping a day to let Dad's sperm count get back up, but my thought is, don't chance wasting any of those little fellas. Put them where they have a chance of doing what they were intended to do.

Step 3

Having said that, I also believe you must both work to make it good nookie.

Ladies, any man will tell you that when he is excited and that excitement has had a chance to build to eagerness over some time, the climactic explosion is bigger (don't ask how we know, ok). This would seem to lend itself to accomplishing the ultimate goal. It is also important for the ladies to experience orgasm, as well. This should be accomplished after the man has ejaculated.

Step 4

Ladys, don't rush to the bathroom afterwards. Let things have time to get where they need to go. Relax and enjoy the moment for a few minutes.

Step 5

Boys, no extracurricular activities. Don't waste the little fellas, you don't know which one might be the one to get the job done. It would be a shame to have him go down the drain, so to speak.

Step 6

Repeat as needed for 12 months.

Step 7

If it still doesn't happen, talk to your doctor. There are many reasons for fertility problems. My second child required intervention from my wife's GYN. My third, fourth, and fifth came along with no problems. Time is sometimes the prescription. Have faith. Keep trying. Don't get discouraged!