How to Prepare a Child for a New Baby in the Family

New Babies are a Big Deal

When a new baby is about to join the family it is a very big deal. All conversations are centered around the new baby and how excited everyone is to see the new baby. A child doesn't always see a new baby as a big deal and it's important to prepare him/her and include him/her in preparing for the new baby. When sharing the news of a pregnancy with family it is also important to sit down with your child and let them know that a new baby will soon be coming to join the family.

Share the good news with the child and let the child know what things will be the same and what things will be different. Children are very into "their world" and want to know what in their life will change. If your child has never been around a newborn it might be a good idea to visit someone who has a new baby so that your child can see the behavior of a newborn.

Include your Child in Preparing for the Baby

When to tell your child about the new baby depends on the age of the child. Younger children don't understand the concept of time, so "7 months from now" may seem like forever. When the mom starts showing may be a good time to inform the child about the upcoming baby. Be prepared for many questions such as "how did the baby get in there" or "how will it come out".

If possible, invite your child to help pick out the colors for the new nursery. If the child is old enough, he/she can even be involved in helping paint and put the furniture together. It is important to make the child feel involved and let them feel that they are still an important part of the family.

Explain to the child that the new baby won't be able to play right away but in a few years the two children will be good friends and play together. Share some stories about how being a big sister or a big brother is a big deal and the baby will look up to him/her.

If a baby shower is planned you might want to ask some guests to bring a small inexpensive gift for the older child as well. Even a box of crayons or notebook paper is a big deal and the child will feel important and included.

When the Baby Comes Make Time for the Older Child as well

As the due date is coming closer be sure to be prepared about the hospital stay. Find a relative or friend that is available to watch the older child. Explain to the child that as soon as possible they can come to the hospital to see the new baby. It's a good idea to leave paper and crayons with the older child so he/she can draw a picture for the new baby.

It is true that newborns require a lot of care and a lot of attention. It is very important though to still find time to spend with your older child. While the baby is sleeping, spend time playing with the older child. Maybe Grandma can take out the older child for a special trip to the park.

Be Prepared for Your Child to Change Their Behavior

Sometimes children get jealous when the new baby comes and they may revert some behaviors to try to get attention. If the child is potty trained, he/she may have accidents more frequently. He/she may also want a bottle or pacifier again as well. It is hard for a young child to understand why this new baby is in the house and getting all the attention from the parents.

Having a Baby can Change a Family in a Positive Way

Having a baby does cause changes, but when prepared properly, the changes can be very positive. When the older child feels involved and still a part of the family, he/she will be happier when the baby comes.