How to Prevent Divorce

Yesterday an old classmate sent me a few pictures of another classmate, who had visited her. I would feel happy for seeing her, but I remembered her case, which made me sad.

This classmate was married for many years to one of her first boyfriends. She had met her husband when she was only 14 years old and he was a few years older than her. They had three children and were an admirable family!

She was my best friend at school. When I went to Brazil in 1991, after 11 years of absence (imagine how my meeting with all my friends after all this time was!) I stayed at her house one night. Her daughter was only 8 years old and her two sons were 5 and 4 years old. They were very kind, but even when they would make noise or cry, my friend was very patient with them. I told her that if I had three kids like my only son, I would need 10 baby sitters helping me, because they would demolish our building.

Her children were quiet, calm and sweet. Her husband was very sympathetic. He didn't talk too much, but he was always smiling.

Unfortunately though, last year, after so many years of marriage, she sent me a message telling me that she had asked for a divorce. This news was quite shocking!

A few months ago she sent me a message about the problems that her children (teens now) are having with their father and his new girlfriend...

She told me that she was feeling happier though, for finally being able to do the things she had always wanted to, but had never had time to do, because her family and all her obligations had not let her.

Her case is so common today that I'm sure that you know many similar ones in your own environment.

Another case that shocked me 5 years ago was when one of my uncles told us that he would divorce his wife, because she had asked for a separation.

My aunt was so devoted to her family! I can even tell you that her concern was exaggerated...

However, after so many years of marriage, having also three kids, she decided to live alone and do what she wanted to, since my cousins are now adults.

Shall we conclude that they were simply living together because they had an obligation to?

Shall we conclude that when you are married and you have a big family, you don't have time to do what you want to?

It is really sad when you come to a point where you see your family ruined with a divorce, after a long life together!

In such situations, you feel that you have wasted your life with the wrong companion. What a bitter conclusion!

Is there a way to avoid for sure such an end?

Or should you avoid getting married and having a family?

The correct answer is that you must be wise from the beginning of your life.

You must learn how to discover the right person for you, instead of marrying any boyfriend of girlfriend, without understanding what you are really doing when you decide to share forever your life with them.