How to Re-connect With Your Spouse and Have a Romantic Marriage

Marriage and romance should go hand in hand long after the wedding ceremony. But if that is the case, why is it that not long after the ring is slipped on the finger, many couples face the end of romance as they once knew it? It could have something to do with unrealistic expectations that had been formed prior to the marriage. If a couple start out their married life thinking that their whole married life will involve wall to wall romance, then they are likely to fail. There are so many other issues that can crowd out romance in a marriage, such as financial worries and even sexual difficulties. Newlyweds are just as likely to suffer from sexual dysfunctional problems as couples who have been married for decades. Reality is often hard to deal with and many just resign themselves to a marriage of convenience. It does not have to be that way. The following suggestions will help you and your spouse to re-connect romantically if you have lost that special spark.

How to re-connect with your spouse and have a romantic marriage #1 Kiss one another

Many couples stop kissing after a while. They replace it with a quick peck on the cheek as one or both spouses walk out the door to go to work and do not kiss as often as they used to. What exactly is a peck on the cheek? It is hardly romantic. That is how you would kiss your parents or children. It still expresses love, but the kind of love that is platonic and non-sexual. Some wives complain that the only time their husband kisses them on the mouth is when he wants sex. If this is the only time he kisses her, then she may become non-responsive. Stop this trend by planting a lingering kiss on your husband or wife's mouth and then watch their reaction! It is so much more meaningful than a quick peck on the cheek.

How to re-connect with your spouse and have a romantic marriage #2 Talk a walk together

Taking a walk may make you think of the daily trek around the block as you take your dog for a walk. But it can also help to bring a couple closer together. Romance means far more than a physical relationship. Spending time walking together can help create a deeper level of intimacy with your spouse, that you were not aware of before. People often let their guard down more when they go for walks. Husbands who are willing to open up and talk to their wives are often viewed as a real asset. Remember how you used to spend hours talking and listening when you were still dating and how that brought you closer together? You can recapture that now if you really want to.

How to re-connect with your spouse and have a romantic marriage #3 Deal with sleeping difficulties

If one spouse suffers from a sleeping disorder such as sleep apnea, the other spouse will be robbed of their sleep and this can lead to a whole host of marital difficulties. It is not an ideal situation for anyone to be in. But it can build up into arguments and discontent. A couple who end up feeling this way, will not really want to re-connect and maintain romance in their marriage. They will just want to get some sleep! So deal with the sleep disorder, so that marital harmony can return.

How to re-connect with your spouse and have a romantic marriage #4 Hold hands

Holding hands is not just something that teenagers or newlyweds do. Have you ever seen an elderly couple walking along holding hands? What springs to mind when you see that? I often think of how much that couple must really love each other as they maintain that physical closeness. It is a simple gesture, but it can really benefit a marriage. It lets your spouse know that you want to be close to them.

As you can see, romance can be kept alive in marriage. Romance equals more than just sex, although sex is still an important ingredient to a healthy, happy marriage. Happy couples know how to keep the spark alive, even after many years of married life.