How to Recuperate from NO!

"No" is a powerful word -- only comprised of two letters but with such lasting effects and impacts. The word "no" can make you feel less than; it can discourage you; it can destroy your potential; it will even make you second guess who you are!

The best way to overcome "no" is to consider the alternative. This isn't always easy, but is necessary in order to be successful in the workplace.

At one point in my career, I'd applied for at least 50 jobs in an 18-month timeframe and never received an interview. I was upset, disappointed, frustrated and learned an important lesson in the midst of so many "no's." I learned that "no" for me, meant "not right now." I acknowledged that, if I'd stopped applying for jobs, I would get stuck in my then current role, which isn't where I wanted to be. I continued to apply for jobs and eventually received an offer letter for another position, one that I truly desired.

Everything starts with a decision, so you have to decide whether to let "no" paralyze your career efforts or become a catalyst for change.

First, you have to remember not to take "no" personally. I have found that "no" today opens the door for "yes" at another point in time. You should absolutely evaluate why you are the fortunate recipient of "no." If you are seeking your next career move, for example, and haven't been contacted for a new role, your resume may require a few adjustments. Perhaps someone can review your resume and offer some tips for improvement, which will possibly yield different results.

Next, rejection can take us to a place where professionalism no longer exists. Sometimes the arrival of a message with "no" attached to it will introduce confrontation, retaliation, and premature conversations. It is best to wait so your actions yield a positive outcome. To figure out what your next steps should be, consider asking yourself a series of questions that begin with "why" or "what." "Why have I received this message of no?" and "What is my role in this?" are two questions you could possibly begin with prior to reacting to a message of rejection.

"No" doesn't always have to indicate the ending of something. Depending on your level of resilience, you could be better off if you are willing to have an open mind. Consider the fact that "no" can mean "maybe" or even "yes" when you change your mind as well as your actions. Never allow your temporary situation to have permanent results when it comes to receiving a message of "no."