How to Be in a Relationship with a Neat Freak

Lauren Romano
Neat freaks do not just want everything to be clean and organized; they do everything they can to make sure it actually is. Being in a relationship with a neat freak may not be easy for certain people, especially if they are not as neat as their significant other wishes they were. While the neater person gets angry over dirty dishes in the sink, the other person may not understand why it is a big deal. Despite the differences, with a little effort and compromise, the relationship can work and both people can live pleasantly together .

Have a talk with your significant other

Both of you can explain to each other exactly what the other person's habits are that are bothersome. It is not a time to nitpick, it is a time to communicate with each other to try to find a way that both of you can be in a relationship together without fighting about each other's habits. Explain how you will try to be neater if he or she will be willing to be less fanatical with how and what you clean. He or she may also try to lighten up with their own obsession with cleaning as well.

Be more conscious of things that you do

If you know certain things bother your significant other, for example when you come in and throw your jacket on the chair instead of hanging it up, then try to avoid doing those things. While it will not bother you to hang up the jacket, it will most likely bother someone that is a neat freak if they see a jacket thrown haphazardly. If possible, make an extra effort to be a bit neater.

Tidy up before he or she comes to your place

You should have your home the way that you want, but if your neat freak significant other is coming over, make an effort to at least tidy up beforehand. It will prevent instances of him or her "just picking this up off the floor".

Let some things go

While having a significant other that is a neat freak can be annoying at times, just let him or her clean, tidy and organize if that is what makes them happy as long as it does not interfere with your personal things. In addition, avoid making disparaging remarks about the cleaning habits.

When you are in a relationship with a neat freak, you each may not understand the cleaning habits of the other, but it is important to not let it interfere with your relationship. It is going to be a give and take situation, but it can work out with some effort and consideration.

Published by Lauren Romano - Featured Contributor in Arts & Entertainment and Lifestyle

Lauren is a freelance writer that predominantly writes about dating & relationships, celebrities, NYC, pets, decorating, crafts and fashion. She volunteers with animals and is grateful to have a job she...  View profile

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  • Patricia Sicilia3/23/2009

    I live with a neat freak. Only solution -- KILL THEM! But that's a bit extreme, your solutions are much wiser.

  • Lady Samantha3/23/2009

    My motto is: I'm not messy...I'm creative! :-P Good article!

  • CJ Mathis3/23/2009

    My brother is OCD so that may be a little different - but he is a neat freak.

  • Kassidy Emmerson3/23/2009

    Very good advice! I'm not a slob by a long shot, but if they were too neat, our relationship would suffer. :-)

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