How to Safely Escape From Domestic Abusers

"Keep It Secret. Keep It Safe" are the words Gandolph the Grey told Frodo about Saurons Evil Ring from the films Lord Of The Rings inspired by the author J.R.R. Tolkien. In the case of abuse, the only thing to keep secret is your intention of escape to save your life and the lives of your children. Violence without reason is pointless except to belittle a person over a disagreement. Women or children should not attempt to start a fight by striking first, because it is impossible to win without more violence. This what You do not want The temper of an angry man against a woman, the elderly or child is too horrific to fathom. It is baffling how a man to use his strength to harm a person with less strength mostly on females and children who cannot match his. It makes me wonder how he can hold his head up at any time in his life for committing such a heinous crime like this.

Moreover, how the victims can fight the police who wants to arrest these men. This backward reaction reveals how deep the damage can go for one who experiences, or see the abuse in the home. Some victims may feel that they deserve it, or that they have no other way of support than to live through the fire until it consumes them. It is how damaging low esteem can do to people psychologically where person's self worth does not matter anymore.

It is lowered expectations to the extreme super low beneath the earth's crust toward the hottest exterior core. Men are not only the abusers, but are victims also by women who know they won't try to fight back. It is time to face the reality that your life depends on the decisions you make. The first decision to consider is how to escape safely, so that no one will get killed. Escaping from a psychopath is very dangerous business, so you mustn't let on that you plan to leave. If you let your emotions take over, and you reveal your plans the abuser could seriously harm you to stop you. Many people have affected thirty-two million people from different backgrounds, socioeconomic backgrounds and religions. It is imperative that you plan your escape in secret , so it is a shocking surprise to the abuser.

Whenever the person is out take the time to gather important items such as identification cards, social security, clothing, accounts and other papers you need. If you have a camera, secretly take pictures of yourself. Find someone you trust who would not be on the victims side to help you plan this, or be smart and do it yourself. Get the police involved in your escape, and to help get your children out of school. You must leave to a place where the abuser cannot get to. Think out of state, and seek shelter in a Vera House or covenant house. There should be a state law to allow single mothers or common law wives to sign for custody of their own children to avoid legal trouble. The reason why I suggest leaving the state is that the person can still find you if you are in another town in the same state. This may sound ridiculous to leave your city, friends and you job behind just to escape from a crazy person. You should see the movie Enough with Jennifer Lopez to understand what I mean.

However, on the Oprah Winfrey show there was a woman who had to divorce an abusive man, but the court ordered that he have joint custody even after he abused her. One day he took the kids, called her up and killed each their sons then himself. Oprah sent her on a vacation to Ireland for a year. Later on she got married and had more children. No one wants a bad tragedy like that. Some people may seek help from a therapist, but many others don't. Controlling the temper is an effort that one must want to accomplish. My great grandmother had to escape from an abusive drunk when he left to go drink. She escaped into the night with her children and lived to be 89 years old. Some women die from the continual abuse while others snap and are in prison for murdering their abuser. Let their experience teach you that freedom would be good medicine for you and your children. Don't let his or her abuse turn you into the abuser, and you will be able to heal. I wish you long life with freedom from abuse.