How to Set Marriage Goals
The first and really the only rule with marriage goals is that they must be realistic. You may want to very, very badly, but you're not going to be able to fix things in a day. You most likely will not be able to fix them in a week. However, the amount of time it takes you to achieve your goals will be investing in your marriage, and there are few things that are as important as that. People with happy, successful marriages will tell you that any step you take toward improving your marriage is a step toward happiness. So, choose marriage goals that you can actually accomplish.
Think of the areas that you know need improvement. It could be that you desire more time with your wife or husband or that there needs to be a real communication improvement. It could be that the two of you are always opposing each other when it comes to parenting, family or other issues. Whatever the problems are, this is where you want to start. Of course, your goals will differ from other married couple's goals, but here are a few examples of goals based on marriage problems that occur often.
· I want to work on spending at least 3 hours a week with my spouse.
· I do not want to reply to my spouse in an angry, uncontrolled way.
· I really would like to spend a few minutes every day talking to my spouse in a friendly and happy way.
· I want to work on the trust issue within my marriage.
Once you have chosen your goals, you have made the first step toward working on a better and more fulfilling marriage. One thing that you want to remember while you're working on your marriage goals is to do something every day that puts you closer to achieving your goals. This will keep you motivated, especially as you start to see progress. Also, it is very important that you follow through with your marriage goals as well. Setting clear, concise and achievable goals that are designed to help fix active marriage issues is a great way to grow closer to your spouse and to invest in the marriage you truly desire.
Published by Clarissa DeHarty
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6 Comments
Post a CommentGreat points. Thanks for the tip!
This is a great article, and I like the title very eye catching. I would never think of this in those terms. Setting goals in your marriage is a great way of looking at it and so important. So many people take their love relationships including marriage for granted and dont see it as a work in progress. If both partners work together to make it work it makes the marrriage or relationships so much better. Very insightful in one so young.
Great points. You have to be willing to commit to fixing the problem. So many people jump ship without exhausting all of their options.
Excellent points. It never ceases to amaze me the number of people who aren't willing to put in the work in a marriage. It is SOOO worth it when you do. Of course, that is not to say that every match is automatically made in heaven, either. Sometimes marriage just doesn't work but too many give up too easily.
Thanks! We've been together for quite a while now, and it seems to work out so far...I don't know, they say something happens when you legally belong to each other! LOL Something that my fiance and I both agree on is that neither of us should ever stop trying! Trying to impress, to show love...it definitely keeps things new and interesting around here! :-)
Very good points Sam. I pray that you and your fiance know these early on. Remember it is always 100% on both sides. Lack of communication and trust will kill your marriage, quick (I know from experience). Best of wishes on your wedding and marriage :)