How to Be Social and Gain Popularity

The ability of an individual to make friends is often considered to be relative to how popular the person is. The kind of friends that one has can be classified into best friends, friends whom you hang out with, good friends and casual acquaintances. It takes a long time to nurture an initial friendship and for two people to know each other well enough to become best buddies while the lesser variants of this friendship as mentioned above is cultivated within lesser periods of time and within varying degrees of interaction.

Popularity again can be categorized into different types. Some might be popular just because they are good looking or attractive, others might be popular because of their unique personality, personal charm or an inclusive humor sense. Having any one or all of these qualities that are requisite for popularity might also gain a person a lot of friends.

The key ingredient for an attractive personality is an air of confidence and self assuredness. People flock around someone they can look up to. Some people are possessed of innate charm and exterior attractiveness. Those who lack in these qualities are forced to develop and display them for the benefit of others. This façade might peel of unexpectedly on occasion, exposing the ugly truth within. Artificiality is a big turn off. Nobody wants to be friends with a fake person.

However obnoxious a character one might possess it is more desirable that he or she be genuine than fake. Having good looks also help. Physical attractiveness draws attention from both men and women alike to either sex. The air of non vulnerability that a good looking person possesses and their pleasant expressions and physical mannerisms all contribute to the general attractiveness that they exude. Add a dash of charm and humor to this and you have a potent combination of a personality that can attract friends on the go.

Good looks and personal charm either natural or cultivated as well as a good humor sense all contribute in one way or the other to the popularity of an individual. The most important aspect that many people over look however is whether a person is innately good. There are real nice guys and those who pretend to be nice. Nice guys would have guaranteed themselves a quota of loyal friends and admirers but pretenders are recognized along the way and are shunned.

The popularity of a person need not always be based on his or her being a good human being. There is the bad boy syndrome which works to the advantage of the not so nice guys. Bad boys and arrogant brats also seem to enjoy a fair share of popularity among their peers particularly because of those qualities. When push comes to show however, loyalty and trustworthiness are also key factors. A friend in need is a friend in deed. There are many who live by this adage and there are those who are typical exclusions to this phrase. Ultimately one could say that it's a complex set of do's and don'ts that determine a person's popularity and his ability to make friends.