How to Socialize When You're Diseased

When you are diseased, one of the hardest things to do is see yourself in a positive light. And, when you do see yourself in a positive light, you may still feel that others do not. The first step toward allowing others to see you positively is to see yourself this way. There is absolutely no way that you can continue to have a good reputation until you have dealt with yourself first. If you have not done this before, you will need to sit down by yourself and examine what you really think about yourself. Get a pen and paper and write down what you consider your negative points to be, physically and in your personality. Deal with everything that comes up, even if it's hard, and don't forget to write down your positive attributes, as well. My dad used to always say about marriage, "If you can't live by yourself and be at peace, you have no business living with someone else." This wisdom applies here.

Next, your appearance may need a makeover. Wearing wide-leg jeans can cover up bent and crooked legs and hips. Comfortable clothing makes you appear approachable and relaxed. Primarily, you should be comfortable with what you wear, so that this is not an added hindrance to you, and you are not self conscious.

Now you will need to do a little dreaming. Examine the type of person you would like to be seen as. If you like the tall, graceful, girly types, you will need to develop your tact, decorum and politeness. If you want to be seen as athletic and a fair rival to any guy, you will need to develop your aggression more. Keep in mind that aggression does not equal insulting. If you have to put someone down to lift yourself up, your personal development should be reexamined. Self confidence is one of the most important things to develop within you. If you are confident enough to not see your disease, then other people will forget it, too. Seriously. Never underestimate the power of self confidence.

Now, you may be popular but with some insecurity, or you may be a wallflower. Either way, you will need to do some experimenting with your peer groups to build your confidence and strengthen your chose personality. First, go all out and dress the way you want to be seen, act the way you want to be seen, and put total faith in this experiment. One of the best ways to control the way others see you is to see yourself that way without a doubt. If you want others to see you as charming, you must truly believe that you are charming, and so forth. After a week of this experiment, dress the way you are dressing now and see if the reputation holds. Most likely, it will not only hold, but it will hold permanently until your next experiment. Try on different personas for a week at a time for each and see how easily your peers can be manipulated. This technique works for both diseased and healthy people. The key is: people will only see you as your see yourself and performing these experiments will convince you of this fact, without a doubt.

Lastly, become a societal conqueror. Now that you've done the above techniques, you see that it takes more mental than physical prowess to get what you want. Dream high and achieve all of your goals in life by using the same techniques. Trust me; I'm an expert in this subject.

Sources: 17 years of being personally infested with Dermatomyositis, a highly-degenerative disease which would cause multiple skin eruptions of hard and liquid calcium, severe and bright red skin breakouts, and extreme awkwardness and inflexibility.