How to Get that Spark Back in Your Marriage

Years ago when you were dating your wife, you did everything right. She said yes when you asked her to marry you right? Let's think about that for a minute. Why did she say yes? Because she loved you? Well, yes but there's so much more to it than that. Women are emotional beings. In order for your wife to be happy in her marriage, she has to be be emotionally satisfied by you. I'm going to show you just how to do that. It's so easy, you'll wonder why you never thought of it yourself.

The Little Things

The little things. There is so many little things you can do. These little things cost very little. Most of these little things cost nothing. You don't need to spend a lot of money. You don't need to take her out to a romantic dinner every weekend at an expensive restaurant. Try putting little love notes all around the house. Just a simple and short, "I love you" or "Thinking of you" is fine. Hide them in places like the sugar bowl, her change purse, in her jacket pocket that she hasn't worn in months. She'll wear it again eventually. Call her on the phone when you're at work or away just to tell her that you love her. Open the door for her. This includes the car door as she gets in the car and exits the car. When she sits down for dinner, pull out her chair for her before she sits down. Help her on and off with her coat. Get her a romantic greeting card just because. See? All but one of those suggestions didn't cost a cent. The greeting card may cost you one to five dollars but the effect that doing these things on a consistent basis is priceless.

Hold Her

Holding her after sex doesn't count. If she sits down on the couch to watch TV with you, get up out of your easy chair and sit on the couch next to her. Put your arm around her and just hold her close to you. Let her snuggle right up against you. Now this isn't to be done for the purpose of getting sex. It makes her feel safe and secure with you. This will bring her close to you.

Make Out With Her

When was the last time that you made out with your wife when it wasn't a prelude to sex? It's been a while hasn't it? That's OK. You used to make out with her back when you were dating. It didn't always lead to sex or touching. I know it's difficult but tonight, take her in your arms, kiss her gently and then move toward a passionate and long kiss and do it without touching her breasts or anything south of them with the exception of her back. And don't kiss her neck. I know kissing her neck isn't sex but the only reason you, me and every other man does that is because we know that will get our wife's motor running to the point where she'll want sex with us. Afterwords, refer to the previous paragraph. Hold her.

Help Her Out A Bit

Your wife likely cooks dinner for you and perhaps there are kids in the picture. She cleans the house, cleans up after dinner, gets the kids bathed and ready for school each day, and does load after load of dirty laundry. All of that and more AND she works a full time (or even a part time) job. Help her out a bit around the house. Try getting up before her after dinner, clear the table, rinse the plates, and load the dishwasher while she remains seated. You wanna turn her on? Dude, nothing will turn your wife on more than her watching you vacuum the living room and even moving the furniture to do so.

Now this all may seem like a lot of work but your wife's worth it. Here's the reward. It may not happen over night but if you do these things on a regular basis, you'll see a big change. She will want sex with you more, she will be in a pleasant mood more. She will be more affectionate. She'll complain less. Let's face it. How happy we are as men depends on how happy our wife is. If she's miserable, she usually makes US miserable. What goes in though comes out. If you make her happy and all warm inside, she'll make you happy and all warm inside. Time to roll up your sleeves and get back to basics. Good luck.