How to Spice Up a Boring Sex Life

I've been married to the same man for over 30 years. From time to time during those 30+ years, we struggled with a humdrum sex life. Everything became routine. We made love at the same time, in the same place and in the same way. So when our love life began to put us to sleep, we decided to spice things up a bit.

If you are like us and find your sex life is becoming boring; you might want to try to :

Add a little danger:

One way to add excitement to your sex life is to add a little danger to it. Do you remember when you were young and in love and making out in the back seat? Wasn't it just a little more exciting because you were afraid that you might be caught?

So why not add that slight risk of being caught to your love life now? Choose a place to make love that adds that sense of danger. Go find a place and park again. Find an unusual place to go and make love. Use your imagination.

Add a little romance:

Part of the reason that the love light begins to dwindle is that the flames are no longer being stoked. After all, the prize has been won, why continue the game?

Plan a special evening with your mate. Get rid of the kids. Take the phone off the hook. Light the candles. Open bottle of wine or sparkling cider. Dress up. Put on music. Dance. Cuddle and kiss. Pay attention to your lover's needs make him/her feel like they are your whole universe.

Visit your local adult toy store:

Sometimes you need a little help spicing up your love life. There are many toys and games out there designed to help you add a little something to the humdrum.

Add anticipation to your repertoire:

Routine makes everything boring. My husband and I were making love at the same time and in the same way every time. It made things easier. We both worked. We had kids with busy schedules. It was a time management thing.

To break the routine and make things a little more exciting, we agreed to stop having sex for a set period of time. We set a definite date for the resumption of sex. Every day we would kiss and cuddle and talk about what it would be like when we were able to make love again. We would talk about what we would do and how it would feel etc. It was a difficult few weeks, but well worth it.

Play make believe:

This is a little cliché but dressing in costumes does add spark to your love life. You can be the naughty nurse. He can be a pirate on the high seas. Let your imagination run wild.

Most people think that sexual arousal comes from the parts that make us different. But the truth is that the sexiest organ in the human body is the brain. Using it can make all the difference.